Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week31 Keeping Friendship after Marriage
Hi Steemians,
It's another day of the week and I'm delighted to participate in this contest today organized by @steem4nigeria which talks about keeping friendship after Marriage. I will be making my entry below so read through it and drop your valuable comment as it will be appreciated.
How do you see continuing friendship after Marriage? |
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Friendship after marriage can be continued if the friendship is defined and boundaries set. Before marriage, you may have no limit on your friends because you are still single but immediately after you are married, you ought to know that you have a commitment and you must try to keep to it.
So to continue your friendships after marriage, all you need is to define the friendship and ensure your partner has a full knowledge of your friendship and also set good boundaries for it so that it doesn't cause any issues at all.
So I see continuing friendship after marriage as nothing bad provided it is well defined. If there are no bad motives behind it then it can be continued else it should be terminated completely.
Do you encourage calling besties and treating your friends so dearly after Marriage? |
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No no no. I don't and I will never encourage that. Every attachment you have with others before marriage should be terminated immediately after the marriage to avoid problems in the house.
Your husband or your wife should be the only bestie you have after marriage. I say this because some people will go as far as committing immorality in the name of this is their bestie. So whichever thing happens before your marriage should remain that way and shouldn't come in again after your marriage.
Immediately you are married you are supposed to be cut off completely from all the other genders you have been with before marriage especially those you had intimacy with.
What experience have you or someone encountered positively or Negatively that should encourage or discourage such friendship? |
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In a movie, I saw recently, a woman who got married was still seen going to have fun with her boyfriend. She doesn't attend to the man she married instead she goes to her boyfriend always. The man got worried and when he found out, he chased her out of the house.
So from this story, you see that it's because she has some connection with her boyfriend that is the reason she was sent out of her house. In the same way, if the men have a connection with their girlfriends after marriage, their attention will be divided and they will always want to please both parties.
So it brings about a divided mind because you ain't be able to concentrate and build that which is currently your family instead you will be here and there at the same time which makes no sense at all.
What is your personal opinion or view on continuing friendship after Marriage? |
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If the friendship is defined with boundaries, then I will advise it can be continued because those people are people who may have impacted your life in one way or the other. But if the relationship is not defined and both parties are not completely aware of it, then I suggest it should be terminated for good.
Once you are married, it is important you know that you now have a commitment and you must try all you can to make sure you do your work well as the man or the woman of the house. So if that is done then you can decide to continue or quit a friendship.
I want to invite @josepha, @khursheedanwar, and @steemdoctor1, to join the contest in this community and share their entry participation.
Upvoted! Thank you for supporting witness @jswit.
It a nice entry bro, the friendship should be defined and have boundaries, yes i am in support of this point and no to bestie of a thing, your husband or wife is your bestie once marriage is concern. Thanks for the clarity on this contst theme bro. Wish you good luck on the contest.
I support you..
If you must have or keep a friend even after marriage, then there should be limits and boundaries..
Thanks for your contribution.
You're absolutely right about keeping boundaries with friends after marriage. Like you've rightly mentioned, there's nothing wrong with keeping friends as much as your spouse is aware and the terms of the friendship are defined.
As for that nonsense "bestie," don't bring it near me, I'll break your head. Simple!
Keep good and valued friends and do away with besties. Nice entry.
Nice entry
Hello @kuzboy, hope your day is going well and you believe it's okay to continue friendships after getting married if both you and your partner understand the boundaries. It's important to define the friendships clearly and make sure your partner knows about them.
You have shared a movie where a married woman's friendship with her old boyfriend caused trouble in her marriage and how friendships from the past can create issues in a marriage.
You suggest that it's possible to continue friendships after marriage if everyone understands the boundaries. But if a friendship threatens the marriage, it's better to end it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.,wish you success 💖🤗🌺.
Greetings, friendship after marriage is usually normal but if a bad motive is being the friendship, then terminating that friendship is the best option. According to your story, the woman was kicked out when she was caught red-handed. This means that bad friendship can ruin one's marriage. Good luck