Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week31 Keeping Friendship after Marriage

Hi Steemians,
It's another day of the week and I'm delighted to participate in this contest today organized by @steem4nigeria which talks about keeping friendship after Marriage. I will be making my entry below so read through it and drop your valuable comment as it will be appreciated.

How do you see continuing friendship after Marriage?

Friendship after marriage can be continued if the friendship is defined and boundaries set. Before marriage, you may have no limit on your friends because you are still single but immediately after you are married, you ought to know that you have a commitment and you must try to keep to it.

So to continue your friendships after marriage, all you need is to define the friendship and ensure your partner has a full knowledge of your friendship and also set good boundaries for it so that it doesn't cause any issues at all.

So I see continuing friendship after marriage as nothing bad provided it is well defined. If there are no bad motives behind it then it can be continued else it should be terminated completely.

Do you encourage calling besties and treating your friends so dearly after Marriage?

No no no. I don't and I will never encourage that. Every attachment you have with others before marriage should be terminated immediately after the marriage to avoid problems in the house.

Your husband or your wife should be the only bestie you have after marriage. I say this because some people will go as far as committing immorality in the name of this is their bestie. So whichever thing happens before your marriage should remain that way and shouldn't come in again after your marriage.

Immediately you are married you are supposed to be cut off completely from all the other genders you have been with before marriage especially those you had intimacy with.

What experience have you or someone encountered positively or Negatively that should encourage or discourage such friendship?

In a movie, I saw recently, a woman who got married was still seen going to have fun with her boyfriend. She doesn't attend to the man she married instead she goes to her boyfriend always. The man got worried and when he found out, he chased her out of the house.

So from this story, you see that it's because she has some connection with her boyfriend that is the reason she was sent out of her house. In the same way, if the men have a connection with their girlfriends after marriage, their attention will be divided and they will always want to please both parties.

So it brings about a divided mind because you ain't be able to concentrate and build that which is currently your family instead you will be here and there at the same time which makes no sense at all.

What is your personal opinion or view on continuing friendship after Marriage?

If the friendship is defined with boundaries, then I will advise it can be continued because those people are people who may have impacted your life in one way or the other. But if the relationship is not defined and both parties are not completely aware of it, then I suggest it should be terminated for good.

Once you are married, it is important you know that you now have a commitment and you must try all you can to make sure you do your work well as the man or the woman of the house. So if that is done then you can decide to continue or quit a friendship.

I want to invite @josepha, @khursheedanwar, and @steemdoctor1, to join the contest in this community and share their entry participation.