Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week41: Navigating Through Conflicts
Greetings dear friends,I am delighted to participate in this Contest where I will be sharing with us the best ways to handle arguments during conflicts. One thing is certain, conflicts are inevitable. Read on as we go on a ride.
There's something we need to get straight here, that is the fact that conflicts and arguments are inevitable as the come up once in awhile. But our ability to stay calm when the arise is what matters.
As we all know, arguments most times are full of tense, scary, emotions and we may find it hard to keep our coo. This is evident more when it has to do with someone you care about like a partner, close friend,or even a family member.
Below is a list of methods I use in other to stay calm during arguments in other not to blow up.👇
✅I take a deep breath
This is something I learnt from my father and research have shown that taking deep breath down in your belly can engage the part of your nervous system called "rest and digest". This is the opposite of fight or flight
So by taking a few minutes to breathe deeply, you are preventing your brain getting hijacked by your fight or flight system, this is because the fight or flight system is designed to mobilize you for action and is incredibly useful in situations where you are in danger . Unfortunately, during an argument, this might look like yelling, defending yourself,or storming off.
The quickest way to stay calm is to move your breath down into your belly and make a conscious efforts to offset your threat system
✅I Stop Trying To Win
You know, when ever there's an argument or conflicts, it's easy to see the other person as an adversary you need to beat or win against. The key to healthy conflict or argument is to step out of the mindset of "I am right,you are wrong"
This is because needing to win by proving you are right often means getting frustrated that the other person isn't seeing it your way. This kind of frustration can easily escalate into anger and rage which makes it harder for the other person to see it your way,it also means that you are unlikely to hear their perspective.
✅I also set boundaries and maintain Boundaries
The best thing you can do during an argument is to keep your cool and remain respectful, regardless of what happens. It's also important to place boundaries around any behavior both of you consider out of bounds. Decide what you consider a boundary violation and set expectations with the other person by letting them know what's not ok and allowing them to do same. By so doing, you both are clear about what's acceptable.
When you hear this words" Are you listening to me ?" You will agree with me that the speaker thinks that the listener is nodding off or daydreaming.
For me as an individual, active listening holds an incredible power that can transform the trajectory of any disagreement or dispute . It goes beyond simply hearing what someone has to say but it delves deeper into understanding their perspective, emotions and underlying motivation. By listening during an argument,we can create a safe space for open duologue, build trust and ultimately find resolutions that satisfy all parties involved.
➡️when you engage respectively with people you disagree with,you learn to regulate your emotional response.
➡️ Listening to other people's view point keeps your ego in check
➡️ When you listen to people who disagree with you,you begin to develop and appreciate our differences and you gain tolerance for those who have different beliefs.
Understanding someone else feelings is the best way to resolve conflicts. It involves being able to see things from the other person's point of view and understanding their thoughts, feelings,and experiences. When people are able to understand others perspectives, they are more likely to be empathetic, compassionate and considerate.
Just like other emotions, anger conveys a message. And there are different ways we can express our anger such as the way we speak, the way we take action and in the way we behave in general. Below is a list of how we can control our anger during arguments.👇
✅ Think before you speak
✅ Breathe
✅Walk away
✅ Apologize
Now the problem is that, only after an outburst, will you then realize the things you said/did,and regret takes hold of you. Please let's all have empathy on one another as it goes a long way in resolving conflicts.
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It has been established that conflicts are inevitable in every environment. But measures can be adopted either to prevent it from occurring or to resolve it when it has occurred.