STEEMIT ENGAGEMENT CHALLENGE WEEK #3 || DEFEND THE STATEMENTS || BE THE CRITICAL THINKERS WE WANT TO SEE!

INTRODUCTION

Greeting to you all dear friends, hope everyone is okay? It is week 3 and another time to participate in the Engagement Challenge contest. With this excitement, I will be present on two topics; A woman’s place is in the kitchen and punishment never has a good effect.

PUNISHMENT NEVER HAS A GOOD EFFECT

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When we look at this statement what comes to the mind? Punishment is a method of correcting someone for a crime committed which involves physical and mental pains. Punishment has both positive and negative effects and most at times many people are focused on the negative effects. As a growing child is used to be scared of punishment and would be very angry when punished even if I am wrong. This happens to be the case of every human being; no one wants to be punished. The effects of punishment mostly weigh on the negative side which are;

• REOCCURRENCE OF CRIME

Most often a punishment meant fails to attain the objective of correction rather it leads to multiple occurrences. This is because the proper method of punishment is never applied when someone goes wrong. Some people feels if another is caught doing the wrong thing the next thing is a physical action which is totally wrong. Methods like this doesn’t give any moral lesson to the person and so we will constantly have such behavior from the community. For example some is caught stealing an items and is put in prison or killed by mop justice doesn’t solve the problem. At time in that prison the criminal may not be educated about his crime and so if he or she gets out he can get into the act. This seems to be the reason why we have so many arm robbers around. If they are thought how to work to get what they want or explain the weight of their crimes there will be no thieves in our community

• RESENTMENT AND FEAR

This happens to be an emotional effect of a punishment inflicted on someone. Punishment at times leads to resentment and fear as a result of excessive anxiety, guilt, and self-punishment due to uncontrolled emotions. It is very dangerous as the person dissociate from social activities leading to isolation. We see that instead of correction we have inflicted a bigger pain which will be difficult to handle.

• EYE SERVANTS

In a situation where a control system is put in place like a camera to monitor activities an area, people tend to be eye servants. They do things just for the purpose of the camera never in their willingness to do. It is realized that the moral aspects of such persons is very poor as out the camera their actions are dangerous. This causes personal, internal or self-control to be low leading to undesired behaviors.

• AN ABUSE

This mostly goes with children in school or at home especially nannies. Many parents in our society today engage in abuse children as result of punishing a child but if may lead to an injury which wasn’t intended. Some of these damages and injuries occur when the parent loses control, and goes beyond the boundaries of reasonable behavior during an act of punishment. At times if you go around the community you will weep at the punishment been inflicted on children. You will see the rage or anger in the parent eyes and wonder if that actually is his/her child. Most people who suffer these abuses are nannies who will always be in pains with no one to talk to. This always breaks my heart upon seeing such them under this harsh treatment.

• AGGRESSION

Some punishments are never due to a wrong act but out of aggression. Many people at times carryout punishment not because you did something really bad but just a transfer of aggression from another person whom you know or not. This happens to be the worst form of punishment as it is always full of anger or rage which may lead to an injury.

Morally, better methods of punishment are preferable than punish undesirable behavior. Some may include

• Explain the punishment so as to make the offender aware of the gravity of the crime which will help reshape hi/her behavior

• Be consistent in a punishment to ensure proper change to the crime

• Minimize too much dependence on physical punishment. Punishment must not be only physical it can be in a safe mental health. This can be linked to explaining the crime and bringing his/her conscience to work. This will enable the person have a good rethink about the effects of the action made and better find ways of solving it. Hence limiting aggression and disruptive mental health

If we should induce punishment we should consider the effect of it and it should have a positive effect not a negative one. If it is negative we are not doing anything good rather are killing ourselves gradually

A WOMAN’S PLACE IS IN THE KITCHEN

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Looking at this phrase I may laugh but I will deny this 100% but reading deeply into the context I will affirm to it.

Let's first take a look at the other direction. From creation god made a man and woman to be companions implying we should assist each other with our daily activities. It doesn’t mean because God said a man will work for his family mean a woman cannot do that. In our African, context and world today a woman is seen as a slave a lesser being. This is totally wrong. The mind of everyone sees that a woman is only supposed to stay are home, cook and wash. That is not a bad idea but looking at our world today and the increasing needs of homes a woman is eligible to do other things to assist the home. There are so many families whose bread winners are women with them men contributing very little and they still have a happy home. A perfect example is my neighbor; a family with both parents as teachers with the wife earning higher than her husband. They both contribute for the house expenses and still the wife cooks and take care of her family each day.

Did you know that men are good cooks?
If you didn’t know from today know that dear friends. There’s this crazy ideology of men are not supposed to cook for any reason, I say YOU LIE. A man has every right to cook whatever he wants and at any time not just a woman. For me only a lazy man and a man who cannot cook will say such. If you go around many restaurants and eating joints today, you will find men been the chef cooking delicious meal. This doesn’t stop them from being a man in the society and their homes.

I got to understand this better from my grandpa. I would always watch him get into the kitchen cook and serve us. Most at times he would always send us away as we would want to join him but he would not oblige. One day I asked him why he loved cooking he told me my child I do it for love, it gives me inner peace and it is a lesson to all that men can cook despite all the women around this got me there and I admired his humility a lot.

For those who say a woman’s place is in the kitchen ask yourself these
• What happens to you if there is totally no woman on earth?
• Will you die of starvation or cook?
• What harm does it cause to enter the kitchen and cook?

These are some of the reasons I told myself I will date or marry a man who can cook so that we can learn from each other, help each other and he can cook for the family if I am not around or sick. God has given me one and he is a good cook

Despite all the points above women have been given that responsibility of the kitchen because

• WOMEN ARE BETTER KITCHEN MANAGERS
In this aspect women stands a better place in managing the activities kitchen better than a man. A woman a tht gift of using limited resources to prepare delicious food for the household

• FAST AND EASY
Watching a woman work in the kitchen gives you that anxiety to do it too. A woman works in a kitchen with love reason why you see them smiling always while cooking.

When we look at the kitchen work I don't find it difficult especially cooking. To me it is a means of sharpening my skills for my future home. Cooking is my first passion and I can cook anything, anytime or spend the whole day cooking different meals. I was thought by my mother never to stay without food in the house so you won't visit me and not have something to eat.

There is this African saying the road to a man's heart is his stomach so it is obvious women need to be in the kitchen to prepare food for their homes. We all know a woman who can't cook will definitely not make a good wife.

I'm general, a woman's place is in the kitchen. That is her office which she commands to any angle and everyone must oblige to her. A kitchen is what woman is best at and has the honour to that. In fact women are miracle workers in the kitchen.

VOTES ARE NOT GUARANTEED

This is a very serious aspect on steemit which many people don't know about. Voting comes about reading an article and rewarding it with a votes. I can say votes are not guaranteed, why?

• QUALITY OF POST
Most at times many posts do not receive votes due to quality. We realize that many people make posts without quality and sometimes doesn't meet the requirements of the community. Such posts are often left without votes while those with quality gets the juicy votes. This encourages them to make more while the others reduce their posting rate.

• IGNORANCE ABOUT VOTING

Some people do not know they are to vote a post which they have read and liked. They may drop comments but not votes. Many of them think voting is supposed to be done by the curators alone which is not correct. Let's be aware tiny drops of water makes an ocean.

• VOTING MANNER
Sometimes posts don't get vote because of low voting manner or biased voting system. I have witnessed this situation of biased voting system in a communities which caused some issues making members leave and stopped posting in the community. A low voting manner may leave some posts not been voted and may not be voted when the next session of voting is done.

Honestly many things results to no having votes and most of them come from the authors. In order to have votes try to do the necessary especially with making quality posts, following rules and respecting the clubstatus. I have been a victim several times of not having votes because of my clubstatus. Now I know better.

CONCLUSION

Thanks dear friends for taking out time to read my post. Remember to inflict punishment to for a negative effect, if you want votes create quality contents and a woman’s place is in the kitchen.

This post has been set to 20% to #pak-charity and I am a member of #club5050