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Looking at the above quote, I know that I had been guilty of being judgemental. I do not mean to offend anyone but I am put off by those "holier than thou" Christians and they are certainly doing more harm than good.

I have written a post on why we tend to judge others. I have concluded that when we are less judgmental, we will be happier. Today's post will teach us to be less judgmental.

1. Observe your thoughts to develop self-awareness.

Learning to catch yourself in the act of being judgmental is the first step toward becoming less judgmental, which takes some practice with mindfulness and self-awareness.

Observe your thoughts for a few days and try to catch yourself forming unfavorable judgments about others. When you've mastered the ability to notice these thoughts, consider why you feel the need to pass judgment on the people in the issue.

2. Keep track of what makes you think in judgmental ways.

Positive or negative judgments can be made; in any instance, you're assuming you know the entire circumstance and the reasons for someone's actions. When we pass judgment on others, we often come to the conclusion that they will always be that way. You may believe someone is wrong, yet you are the one who is causing the problem. Your biases could also be a result of your own anxieties.

Turn the next time you find yourself passing judgment on others into an opportunity for self-reflection. Why do you believe the other person's actions irritated you? What steps can you take to address your insecurities?

It is beneficial to keep track of your thoughts in a journal for the best benefit. You'll most likely begin to see patterns, or times and settings when you're more judgmental.

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3. Stop And Analyse Why Someone Is Acting The Way They Are.

Most of the time, you have no idea why someone is doing something that you find strange or odd in some way. But consider this: You've undoubtedly done some things that others might find strange, but there was a reason behind them, right? Extend the courtesy of that assumption to others, and consider the reasons they're acting the way they are. When we show empathy to others and try to see things from their perspective, we will become less judgmental.

4. Write down and reframe your judgmental views.

Write down any judgmental thoughts you have the next time you experience them. Rewrite it as a positive affirmation after that. This may seem strange at first, but by reframing our negative ideas as positive ones, we may be better allies to our friends while also feeling better about ourselves.

For example, you see your friend wearing what you think is a very ugly shirt. You can reframe your thoughts to I wonder why my friend is feeling so comfortable and confident regardless of what he is wearing.

5. Be More Accepting

Accept the other person for who they are after you've attempted to understand them. It's quite difficult to change someone else. In fact, success is extremely unlikely. They can only change themselves, just as you can only alter yourself. You don't have to be their closest friend or even like them, but try not to pass judgment or harbor unfavorable views about them.

We need to realize that we are all different and unique in our own ways. Furthermore, our journeys are different and each encounters different challenges and difficulties.

6. Travel More

Traveling will help us expand our minds and make us less judgmental. When we travel to foreign countries, we are able to observe first hand their cultures and lifestyle which are very different from ours.

Learning about people from various backgrounds, cultures, and beliefs will help you be more empathetic since you will be more aware of the unique obstacles that others encounter.

7. Be More Compassionate To Yourself.

Nobody is flawless, and you'll most likely make mistakes along the way to being less judgmental. Allow yourself to forgive yourself and keep trying.

Your goal is to be more compassionate toward others, but don't forget that compassion also applies to yourself! When you discover yourself passing judgment on others, it could be a sign of your own suffering or fears, signaling that it's time for a self-care check-up.

Conclusion

It is very easy to judge others and point a finger at others. But remember that when one finger is pointing at others, 4 fingers are pointing back at yourself. This world will be a happier place if instead of being judgmental, we practice being kind, empathetic and compassionate.

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