WOULD YOU BE A FULL-TIME STAY HOME FATHER/DAD?- A MUST READ FOR ALL MALE

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I have been pondering on this for a while, though am not married yet; I keep asking myself if am going to take a break from my work and career and stay home to take care of my children while my wife work. There have been several debates on if it is better for the family for one parent to stay home full time than having both parents work full time, even though I haven’t yet taken a side which is ideal, probably because am not yet raising kids.

This is a life-changing decision, and it also depends on the family involve and their agreement. Even though a lot of men might not agree to this, especially in Africa where the husband’s decision is final.

Being a stay-at-home father sounds like a perfect idea, women and wives would love it; but individual families have their own peculiarity and what works for A might be a disaster for B. The emotional state of the man in question is paramount as well as the humility of the wife, if these two factors have been checked, then it is a free-ride decision to make.

A man giving up his job on the hand might cause a lot of problems, some of which I have highlighted below as you read on;

THE FAMILY MIGHT END UP NOT HAVING ENOUGH MONEY

When a man, the father agrees to stay home and abandon his career; he also let go of his wages/salary, the spouse is working, fine; but her earnings might not be enough for the whole family. She might not be making enough as the husband which means the family will have to survive on just one source of income. In some cases where the wife earns big, still two earnings make things a lot easier for the family, their lifestyle would be completely affected by this decision; what they eat, what they wear, where they have vacations (that’s if they can afford one).
One of the several downsides of this decision, it might have a lasting effect on the children in the long run and the real aim of such decision would be negated.

MAKES THE HUSBAND UNHAPPY

A full-time husband might become unhappy, his moral might become so low after a long time staying at home and tending the kids, changing diapers and so on. The father formal workplace could be a fun place, his colleagues could be his source of motivation, he might be missing the office cocktail/barbeque party etc. If a man had given up what he enjoys doing, then chances are he might have given up something that challenges him and interest him as well.
Exchanging days spent in professional environment with feeding his kids, doing laundry, dressing them could be overwhelming; many men are not used to house chores, or many were but long days of bachelorhood had made them different entities and this makes it hard for a full-time dad that had swapped his breadwinning position to take care of his children while the wife is away at work.

THE DARKEST EVIL SIDE OF WIVES

This is real, I have seen it and so are many of us reading this. Once a woman assumes the role of breadwinner; whether by mutual agreement or involuntary (when the husband loses his job), women tend to be aggressive towards spending and might even be reluctant to attend to the personal needs of the husband. A full-time stay home husband would have to deal with a nagging wife; she becomes extremely unfriendly and complains a lot about the husband’s slightest mistakes.
Husband in this category becomes demoralized, unhappy, dejected and with low self-esteem. There have been cases where such husband run off with no traces, another set commits suicide as the way out.

THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE MAKING SUCH DECISION

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The family can still enjoy time together while both parents work, since most children in every family spend the whole day in school, except on holidays and the infants; each parent can still spend some tangible time with their kids on Holidays, Weekends and in the evening.

Such family could afford a family vacation if both parents work and earn, this another opportunity for family bonding and special moments together. Though some culture considers it extremely normal for the wife to be a fulltime stay home parent, I must confess that it saves a lot of money and emotional stress for one of the parent to stay home alone while the other earn for the whole family, thanks for reading.



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I don't have problem with my husband taking breaks from work and spending time with the kids sometimes during the holiday, but I don't want him staying ahome all day.

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This is fantastic, that is a brilliant way to go by it. Thanks for the astounding input @vintageverve

having children also away from their parents is lost the affection.

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well, it happens once in while except for parents that died (maybe the father or mother), don't you think?

Hmmmm !
Am not in support of that one ooooh.....hubby staying at home to take care of the family.....hmmmm....you don't know women especially African woman....The world will hear that she's now the bread winner of the family....
The man will loose his respect because the wife will expect the man to start performing the duty of a wife since she's the one that now put food on the table.....
This topic reminds me of my uncle.....he lost his Job and decided to stay at home to take care of the family while the wife is working.....my things change ooooh... The sweetheart she's usually calls the hubby turn to Papa Oge some occasion she calls him by his name....my uncle cook, wash the wife and children cloth...the wife will come back from work ask for water to bath, eat and go to sleep...
My dear it's better for the man to work ooooh to retain his respect.
Thanks for sharing.....

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Yes, the Dark Evil side a wife comes out in such a case as stated in the article, thanks for the nice input.

Not recommended. I know I might receive pushback; but, men are not wired to lock in 24/7 to kids. Typically, women are born with a huge nurturing yen; thus, from early ages they take care of their baby (doll). Rarely, do boys pick dolls to play with. They're more likely to dropkick their sister's dolls for the hey of it...

Wives love the husband's help; but, are very uneasy when the man is not the head of his house...king of his castle....breadwinner. Men don't want to have to ask the wife for money to buy something they want. On the other hand, housewives receive the gift of her hubby's earnings to shop for the needs of the home...blah...blah...

I leave you with this:

To Adam he said, "Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat from it,' "Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. (Genesis 3:17)...and

Exodus 34:21 Six days you shall labor

Ephesians 5:23-25

Man is the head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the Church...…

24)Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything (my interpretation: which aligns with the Word of God).

I hope this helps. I pray that you find a job that you love when that day comes. in the West, men typically work five days on the j-o-b; and, the sixth day is spent with chores...aka...yard work, etc. around the home...JMHO...

Peace.

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God bless you ma'am for this wonderful contribution, i really value the supporting scriptures.