Influencer | Compass | Partner

in #family5 years ago

Every so often I'm asked who inspires me. I'm not sure of the significance of the answer, how my inspirations could benefit someone else, as we all have different reasons for finding inspiration in other's. Maybe the benefit is a person becoming enlightened to a new potential inspiration. So, I ask other's the same question at times as it's interesting to hear the answer, and often amusing to find people don't find any inspiration at all. (This makes very little sense to me, but it's surprising how many people can't come up with a response.)

I prefer not to call those who inspire me inspirations though...I prefer the term influencer. Now, just to be clear, I don't mean a micro-bikini-wearing Instagram babe holding up a can of protein drink or doing ass-enhancing exercises in Tulum. Although they may influence a whole lot of people to want their fake lives, surgically-enhanced and photoshopped bodies and the questionable fame they portray themselves as having I don't see them as inspirational at all. Tragic maybe...Depends on the size of their floatation devices boobs and trout pout lips. Tragic certainly, but a sign of the times. There's better places to find influencers than on Instagram.

Today I'd like to share with you one of my influencers, a person who inspires me to be better, do better and simply be the best version of myself that I can be. It's my wife.

Yes, I know I can hear the naysayers scoffing already however it's true. She inspires me. You'll never know how much, or really why to be honest, because you don't know her and unless you're me you would never see the real her anyway so you may not find her inspirational.

I've known my wife for 32 years. I met her when she was fifteen years old, only four years after her father died. She and her mother had struggled to make ends meet for those four years and whilst they were not destitute there was not much left over after financial commitments were covered, you know, food, electricity and the like. We hit it off immediately though and to my great honour seven years later she agreed to become my wife. She was twenty two years old and I was a year and a half older when we were married.

Since then I've come to understand how amazing a person she is. How strong a person can be despite adversity, pain and heartache and also how fun-loving, loyal and honest a person can be. We have had an amazing life and there's not much I would change, nothing really; Each moment of our lives makes up the sum and total so taking one part away, no matter how terrible, may affect another and I wouldn't be willing to do so. Each fragment has been like a small part weaved into a colourful tapestry.

I am fortunate to have this strong woman in my life and she stands beside me no matter what. That doesn't mean she always agrees with me, far from it, however she's been the compass I've needed to help me find my way and I'm not only grateful, I'm in awe. Of course she has her insecurities, a degree of fragility, fear and doubt and when they surface I'm there. We sort of balance each other out.

It's very difficult to really explain my feelings as it would require me divulging more than I would like on the blockchain however what I can say is that this influencer is at the top of my list of influencers, and life in general. You won't get it, because you're not me, or her, however I credit this person with helping me become who I am...Not a perfect man for sure, but one who lives the best life I can and who endeavours to be the best version of myself possible. I would be different if I had not met her. Worse...Maybe. We'll never know fortunately.

I have other influencers of course, not all famous or notable, however all valued. I'd be interested to hear who yours are and why. Feel free to share in the comments as I think it's important to spread the love you know? If someone inspires and influences you in a profound way they may be able to do the same for someone else which could change a person's life, as my wife has done for me. So...Comment below. (If you would like).


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That doesn't mean she always agrees with me, far from it, however she's been the compass I've needed to help me find my way and I'm not only grateful, I'm in awe.

My wife is also my greatest influencer. I have very few people in my life that are willing to be honest with me and call me a horse's butt when I'm being one, but those are the people that I value the most. I know they care enough not to indulge me when I'm being dishonest with myself. That is a powerful thing to have in your life!

On the other side of that, she is the only person who has the ability to allow me to see myself as she does and it makes me want to be a better version of myself. Thanks for sharing!

Hello sir, good to hear from you.

Yes, when someone calls my wife my better half I always agree, she is. 😃

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That's awesome that your wife is such an influence/inspiration. It's nice when the person who is the biggest positive influence is also the person who is committed to spend life with you.

Oh, and you forgot to add this link to your post. Heh ;)

Funny you should put that link up. That was the song my wife and I danced to on our wedding day back in 1993.

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That's pretty crazy! I just saw it on an episode of The Goldbergs that I was watching the other day.

I know right? My wife picked it. Was a nice song...If only my dancing (shuffling) was equal to it. 🥴

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I can't remember what our song was. I just know that my brother ended up doing most of the dance with us because he kept trying to get us to be in a picture with him. Apparently he didn't pick up on the fact we were dancing. Ha ha.

It was his job to be obnoxious at your wedding! 🤣

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Chris McCandless.
Hunter S. Thompson.
Jim Carrey.
My daughters.

Explaining why would take too long.

Oh yeah, a couple of good examples right there! Thanks for commenting and for your list. It’s cool that you list your daughters also.

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Now, just to be clear, I don't mean a micro-bikini-wearing Instagram babe holding up a can of protein drink or doing ass-enhancing exercises in Tulum.

This started out fairly generic, but I don't know man, it seemed to get more specific at the end there. :)

Or am I just not with it enough to know that most of the Instagram influencers are working out in Tulum now? I've been there a couple of times, and I could definitely see it being run over by wannabe Instagram influencers, much to the detriment of the area.

Good on you for picking your wife. I can't think of a more solid influencer in my life, either, even if, as you said, we don't always agree. That doesn't mean she doesn't have a way of keeping me on the straight and narrow and always becoming a better person.

Yeah I know right? I’ve never been there but I’ve heard that’s where most of the plastic that ends up in the ocean originates. Still, I’ve also heard it’s a safe beach to swim in. No lifeguards needed, everyone has their own personal floatation devices. 🥴

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There may be more than one beach. I've only been to the one that's right off the ruins, and it's nice, just not very big. I doubt that's where the plastic is coming from. Yeah, reading a little bit about it, sounds like it's not the Tulum I remember. I was there in 1996 and then again in 2012. Sounds like there's been quite a bit of development since then.

A similar thing happened to Playa Del Carmen up the road (not so much in the trash department, but as far as development goes). While I'm okay with progress, not all of it is necessarily for the best.

I think it's just the fashionable place for the plastic fantastics to go and be photographed. It'll wear off and they'll find somewhere else to take their selfies.

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Why would there be naysayers? o_O

Anyway I think that's sickeningly sweet XD

I'm notoriously bad at identifying influences x_x

People have their own thoughts and in the past I’ve had people say that my wife can’t be a true influencer. I disagree of course.

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If we go by dictionary definition they are demonstrably incorrect 🤣

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I most don't like people so rarely give much credence to their thoughts or opinions, especially when it comes to my own life. 😉

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What a gorgeous tribute to your wife! It sounds like you are both lucky to have each other. Big love to you both!

Hey there, yes I’m a pretty lucky fellow. Thanks for commenting.

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