@papa-pepper

BLESSING

Amen to that !
I for one chose not to have kids - no, we don't use contraceptives.
Anyway, despite that my hub and I didn't choose to have children, we do see children as blessings as well.
In my early years of teaching, those children have kept me young at heart, made me laugh so many times and though it wasn't all just sugary moments - yes they could get into your nerves but if one would try to understand a child and see every good any child has - and just understand that - that child is a child - vulnerable like an empty vessel - what you impart and put in that empty vessel - shall mold him or her of becoming whoever they choose to be - then you would also see - how big a role adults play in rearing a human being.
And if one sees a child as a curse - specially their own - most of the time it is just projection. More or less - the parent of that person has suffered the same perception from their parents and have passed on the same perception to that person by treating them as one - curse. And so - subconsciously - it could be imparted to that person as well and subconsciously the person could perceive his or her own child as such. Given a chance to see that or at least be aware that, that's what happened, that person, too could turn such perception around.
If every parent would see their child as a blessing, we won't need shrinks nor police for every child who is treated as one - could grow up as one person - oozing with a bunch of energy and aura full of love.
I'm a fan of Joe the nanny - and through that kind of tv series, I have learned to love children the more.