Stop the Excuses, Stop the Bullshit

Being disturbed by the truth confronting our falsity is uncomfortable. When we get called out for being wrong, or shown to be wrong, it can get our "blood boiling" so to speak. But being shaken up and rattled by the truth is good to awaken us and snap us out of all the automated behaviors, responses and thinking patterns we repeat.

Each day we have routine behaviors and habits that we play out automatically, unthinkingly for the most past. We often engage in impulsive decisions that are also automated responses that have become conditioned and programmed into us. Some of these impulses are biological-natural as part of our core construct (nature), and some are part of our environment conditioning and influence throughout life (nurture). If we just repeat what we already have done, or what we are automatically programmed to do, we won't be thinking about it much and might keep ourselves trapped int he same patterns of behavior that limit us or prevent us from moving forward.

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But we like to stay in the comfort of our routines, because it's what we know. If we get used to something, we stick with it, whether it's good for us or not. It becomes ingrained as a habit, coded in our neural pathways. We then make up excuses to keep doing what we have been doing, because the current condition of how we do things is part of the current and stream of behavior we always swim in. We are programmed to keep swimming in that way because it become "hardwired" into our brains as a default mechanism to engage in.

Our lives can change, but we have to overcome the comfort and convenience of the unthinking behaviors we engage in. We have to start to think more, to reflect, contemplate, analyze and examine our lives more closely. If we don't do that, we are automatically and unthinkingly be robotic in how we do things, excusing it as simply "who we are", as if that is who we are "destined" or "fated" to be, or we justify and excuse it because that's how we grew up, that we were born into this path, that we are this way because people made us this way, that the world is against us, etc. But that's just bullshit excuses to not take charge and control of our lives and make things change for the better.

But that is just using excuses to keep ourselves down, to keep ourselves from reaching higher. That is admitting defeat to past conditioning, programming and influence that created who we are now, and limiting ourselves from changing into the future. It is keeping ourselves stagnant and static, rather than opening up our dynamic possibilities to change.

When we make a mistake, people can call us out on it. Yet we often excuse it and justify it with the previous or other "reasons" to "rationalize" it. There is a problem, but we don't admit it. We don't stop the excuses, we don't stop bullshitting ourselves.

We admit defeat without ever realizing we are in a battle with ourselves: our past and present self against our future self; the present self that doesn't serve us as much as the future self potential can. We give up on out potential to improve our lives and make things better for us and others, and even the world.

It's just easier and more comfortable to think we are fine as well, for to admit we can do better or that we are doing wrong means to admit we have a problem in the present, in the "now". Plus, admitting a problem, a wrong, and the potential to change for the better, involved work to make that change happen. It's easier to just keep doing what we are doing, and excuse it as something that "has to be".

We are defeated by ourselves in our own inner-battle. Other people can try to help us by telling us the truth about our errors, mistakes, or wrongs, but we have to care enough about the truth to let go of our pride and denial, and choose to honestly re-evaluate and re-examine ourselves in the mirror. This is to live a self-examined life, through self-analysis, introspection, reflection and contemplation.

The self-defeated mindset is a problem that weighs us down and keeps us from moving forward and improving things. Things happened to us, but that doesn't mean we have to let those things define us and keep us repeating patterns that don't serve us for the better. We need to take responsibility for our own lives and change how we see ourselves, to take back our power and control rather than remain as victims to circumstance, fate or an "evil" world out to punish us or make us suffer.

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That's not to say there aren't real bad things that others do, or that happens to us. We need to accept that those things happened. Sometimes there are real physical limitations that are valid excuses for why we can't do something. But much of the excuses we use are attempts to justify where we are and keep ourselves down and defeated in that current position.

We need to take responsibility for actions and choices we ourselves make, because that's the only way things are going to change. Is your excuse a real thing, or just a way to deflect, dismiss, reject, refuse, avoid, deny or ignore the potential to make a change in your life?

We need to respect ourselves enough to want to face the truth about our lives, and welcome others who respect us enough to tell us the truth. Valid criticism about what we are doing can help us move forward for the better, even though it's uncomfortable to be rattled, shaken and disturbed from that comfort zone of excuses or ignorance we keep ourselves in.

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