SATURDAY NIGHT WITH ZIZY: EPISODE 3

Hello my wonderful steemians. Okay I am laughing but I don’t know why. Oh yeah! I do know why. chuckles. It is another episode of “Saturday night with zizy”. Yippeeee! I am truly excited and elated to once again present the third episode of “Saturday night with zizy”.

It has been a fun ride right from the introduction of the show to this amazing third episode which I am very certain will be explosive but I will allow you be the judge of it. winks. Last week on the show we talked about “the art of kissing”. Did you miss it? Not to worry, you can always click here to read up and learn. Like always, I won’t bore you with a lengthy introduction, let’s get the show rolling as the DJ thrills us with some amazing blues.

“DJ play the music”, in jenifa’s voice LOL

RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY

Let me start by asking this question. To have great sex, would you love to be reincarnated as a man or a woman? well, I am sure the answer to this question depends very much on who is answering. It has always been a datable question that which gender has more sexual drive in a relationship. So, today we shall be discussing which gender enjoys sex more?

MEN AND WOMEN WHO ENJOYS SEX MORE?

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There is this global assumption that men enjoy sex more than women because they are always more often than not thinking about sex. I want to believe women also think about sex. Men report more spontaneous arousal. When men are aroused, it is physically seen whereas the female sexual arousal isn’t so obvious. These facts seem to make people believe that men in fact do want sex more. Women tend to need connection first before sex while men see sex as connection.

Women have lower sex drive but have multiple orgasms, a woman can easily be aroused and climax again even after an orgasm with a little sensitivity of the clitoris except there is a lack of motivation whereas for men, they need time to get it up again. Men actually have sex a lot but the number of time doesn’t equate with whether it is enjoyed or not. Women do want sex as much as men, the challenge though it has to be a memorable one. A woman has so many hot spots that can make sex pleasurable and more enjoyable for her than a man. Make sex with a woman have a beginning, middle and an end and you see her asking for more. It is no news that women have been heard complaining of the laziness of their partner and how unadventurous they are on bed this is because women are very adventurous and are willing and ready to try something new all the time to achieve the pleasure they seek.

When a woman is horny, heaven help her man if he doesn’t make himself available and a horny lady who is not in a relationship is usually very grumpy and not a good companion why because they also do desire sex. You desire something you enjoy, isn’t it?

Most men will orgasm within four minutes of penetration but most women take between 10-20 minutes to reach orgasm (usually through direct stimulation of the clitoris) rather than intercourse. 75% of men have orgasm during sex as against 25% of women. Add oral sex and the scales even up dramatically. 81% of women have orgasm when it includes oral sex. When it comes to masturbation, within four minutes, a woman orgasms, the same time it takes a man during intercourse.

The same thing that influences a male libido is what influences a female libido. A woman does feel horny and yearn for sex. Give a woman the reason to want sex more and she would. However culture and religion is one of the reasons amongst many why some women will never admit to enjoying sex. In the society today, the woman is celebrated for its supposed passive, non-sexual character.

REASONS WHY WOMEN DON’T DEMAND FOR SEX AND ACT LIKE THEY DON’T ENJOY IT.

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1. Women who have casual sex are shamed and berated. Women are socialized to believe they are supposed to want sex less therefore; they are not likely to admit more time thinking about it.

2. Women in general are more complex than men sexually and have more obstacles to enjoying sex. Women need more out of sex than direct genital stimulation unlike most men and have more steps to their orgasms. When these obstacles are accounted for, sex is just as enjoyable for women as it is for men.

3. Women are the ones classified as “nymphomaniacs”. The male sex drive is too often considered the baseline. If she wants sex more than he does then she is oversexed and if she wants less then she is frigid.

4. Women fear to be used and discarded. Men do not fear this. Women worry that men will lie to get sex. This does not prove that men want sex more; it is because the civilian and emotional consequences of a one night stand are different for men and women. True some women don’t care about these consequences but they do exist.

5. Women fear becoming pregnant and abandoned. Women are taught that they are the gatekeepers of morality. Men are taught to blame women when they fall into the temptation of sex. Women fear being labeled “easy”. The society gives more sexual value to a woman if she is labeled “pure” and less if she has had too many men. A man is given more value sexually if he has lots of experience and less value if he is inexperienced.

6. Virgin when applied to a woman is both virtuous and sexually desirable but when applied to a man is considered pathetic.

Given all these pressures and conditions placed on female sexuality, it makes sense that a woman’s natural sex drive is heavily hampered by social conditions and if somehow she manages to escape these conditions, she will usually lie to save face. What do you think it will feel like for a woman to admit she thinks about sex all day? Your guess is as good as mine. In a completely equal and open culture, the drive for sexual gratification would be comparable between the sexes.

DATING TIPS

A woman can’t change a man because she loves him; a man changes himself because he loves her. When he is trying to change, don’t mention his past mistakes. That is like throwing rocks at him while he is trying to climb a mountain.

FUN CORNER (Just For Laughs)

If sex was to be a world cup, which state in Nigeria do you think will win it? if you know, you know

DEAR ZIZY

Anonymous 1
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Dear zizy, thank you for this platform to unburden my mind of this great trouble. Sometime this week I received a voice recording from my brother’s neighbor. In the recording he claimed to have slept with my brother’s wife countless times. He even mentioned how she screams his name during sex. He went further to say that he is willing to swear before any shrine that what he is saying is true. This guy is a direct neighbor to my brother and I have met him severally in the house alone with my sister-in-law. Since I listened to it I have been confused. What do I do? Show the recording to my brother or just delete it and forget about it? They are just one year old in marriage. Please advice.

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Please mine is not relationship issues. I am a beautiful girl with a nice shape and because of that I always get a lift from nice cars and handsome dudes to work but my problem is they never ask for my number. This saddens me. Please should I ask for the number instead? I just feel like I shouldn’t be missing all these opportunities.

FEEDBACK FROM LAST WEEK ON DEAR ZIZY

Anonymous 2

I took my time to read all the comments last week. This lady had the guts to finally chat me up and tell me that I have simply fooled myself by writing to Zizymena. No problem. I'm sure you are seeing this, return my money before this time next week or I will mention your name on this show. Consider it a threat.

CONCLUSION

Wow! What a trip all the way down here. We have finally come to the end of the show. I hope you enjoyed every part of it? If you have comments for every segment, do not worry Steemit doesn’t penalize you for dropping more than 1 comment on a post. Why not express yourself and check out other people’s comment too? It's always fun interacting.

FINAL NOTES

If you love this show and want to support, your SBD’s and Steem are very welcomed. Supporters so far are @eurogee, @amec and @samminator. Thanks a lot guys. Please do REESTEEM to show your support. Bless you all. Zizy cares.

I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain

Yours truly

@zizymena.

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