Singing “softwork” by Falz. Truly,it is our work.

Goodevening beautiful steemians and yes it is time for Saturday Night With Zizy. Guess what? It is episode 10 of this amazing show. I am truly elated at how far we have come on this show. “We” because I couldn’t have done it alone without your support. Thank you so much everyone for your upvotes, reesteems, and oh my world! The long comments I get on the show and believe me you, this only spurs me to do more.

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Okay, now to the business of the day…

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RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY

Nowadays, sex is an important part of most relationships that it is so hard to tell if it is just sex or more than just sex. A man can do anything to get a woman laid. Men understand that women are moved by what they hear and so they say all the right words. How many men can be honest enough to tell you that what he wants is just sex? Men do not want to be perceived as assholes and also they do not want to endanger the possibility of being laid and so they bring on all the hearts, flowers, charm and hints of more to come only to backtrack and vanish into thin air afterwards.

Why can’t we be honest enough and state it is just sex from the beginning of a casual relationship? Both women and men can enjoy casual sex but they have to define it from the start that it is just for physical enjoyment to avoid someone getting hurt but sadly it is not so. Most women do not understand the term “it is just sex”. They see sex as a beginning of a beautiful love affair that could end up in marriage. Just because he takes you to the clouds and make you hear symphonies during orgasm does not mean it is a relationship. It could just be chemistry. Sex creates an illusion with relationship but it does not lay a foundation for one.

A guy can call you all the time and take you to fancy restaurants, send you thousand kiss emojis and tells you how beautiful you are but this does not mean he has any intentions of pursuing a relationship with you. Sometimes, all a guy wants is “just sex”. You cannot keep a guy for long if all you do when you are together is have sex and nothing more.

HOW CAN YOU TELL IF IT IS JUST SEX OR HE WANTS MORE?

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It is hard to tell whether a guy wants a relationship or he is just in for the under the sheets experience. Guys have upgraded their skills and more women are getting confused. Ladies should learn to know when what they say is nothing more than just air coming out from their mouth. Pay attention to how he acts and what he does. I am going to be outlining some of the actions that are red flags and shouldn’t be ignored.

1. It is just sex if the only thing you do is have sex. A relationship with great sex experience is amazing but a relationship should not be solely based on sex. If the only time you have intimacy is during the under the sheet experience then it is clearly just sex. He should do more. There are lots of activities couples can engage together. Spending time together is important to get to know each other and understand if you are compatible. You can’t know this if all he does is stroke you.

2. It is just sex if the only time he cares is during sex. Do not think he is trying to satisfy you during sex, touching all the erotic zones and making you cum is because he is a selfless gentleman. Men understand that woman always seek more sex from a guy who makes them experience volcanic eruption. The hotter you get, the more the likelihood of sex. Look at his actions. Does he cuddle after sex or just jumps out of the bed right away? Pleasing you should be his priority. He should desire to see you happy, elsewhere-everywhere.

3. It is just sex if all he does is compliment your body. All he says is “I love your body, you feel so good. I can’t wait to have a taste of your gorgeous body” etc. Do not be carried away, he is talking about your body and not you. When a man makes a woman feels good, it boost his ego and reassures him he is a good lover. Please let him compliment your personality. He should love something about you other than sex; your character, intelligence, outlook on life etc. A guy that does this has a bonus.

4. It is just sex if the meeting is always behind closed doors. A guy that will never spend quality time with you outside the bedroom is only after sex. Behind closed doors, he is sweet, charming and romantic and wont stop kissing you but outside, he wouldn’t even hold your hands. He is not interested in introducing you to family and friends. Sometimes, he visits only at night. Do not presume he is very busy; you might just be his booty call.

5. It is just sex if phone conversations and text messages are only in a sexual nature. You are always the one initiating all communications. He acts vey busy but then suddenly has time to spare when the topic is sex. He becomes very chatty, charming and adorable and can chat or talk for hours. This is a red flag. How much do you know about him? When you try to talk about intimate things, he finds you boring and wouldn’t reply messages even when he is clearly online.

6. It is just sex if you get upset and he doesn’t flinch. He disrespects you and compliments other women in your presence. If you get visibly upset about lack of communication or closeness between the two of you and he doesn’t care. He probably doesn’t care about you either. You tell him you like a particular thing he did and he stops doing it because he wants to keep his distance. He is obviously not interested in a relationship with you or may not be concerned about your feelings. You don’t want to be with an inconsiderate guy.

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Do not beat yourself up if you find out he is all about sex. The earlier you find out and give him the boots, the better for you. Pick a partner for good and sufficient reasons not just for his looks or his fat bank accounts. Always learn to separate the good guys from the predators.

To know more, check out
Relationship or just sex
Does he really love me?

DATING TIPS

Girls, try to avoid pre-judging before a first date. Whether it is someone you are meeting online or it is someone your friends know, aim to drop the things you know about him and start afresh. Don’t ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you end up with a tainted view of what to expect. Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically.

FUN CORNER (JUST FOR LAUGHS)

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Why do men fall flat on the bed with just a finger push from the woman in the bedroom?

DEAR ZIZY

ANONYMOUS 1

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Dear Zizy, please I am confused. I have this guy i have been having sex with for two years now. It's just sex and he's amazing, handsome, intelligent and a workaholic. It all started when we hooked up through social media after I broke up with my boyfriend. We have great chemistry together and he's been the only one I have been having sex with since two years now. He claims I'm the only woman too although I don't believe him. I see how ladies flirt with him on group chat. The problem here is, recently he started acting all jealous and stalking me. Yesterday he told me he wants something solid, forever. I'm speechless. I feel like that's his way of keeping me all to himself for the sex to continue. Please help me. Do you think he means it?

ANONYMOUS 2

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Please urgent help, post but keep me anonymous. MyBabe bought me a vibrating condom. We were in the heat of the moment some days ago and when I was about to penetrate, she stopped me and brought out the vibrating condom and asked me to use it. I refused and that was how my thing kept dancing while I was begging her because she said if I don't use it then no sex. Please how do I resolve this issue. I don't like that vibrating condom, it feels gayish to me.

CONCLUSION

Wow! What a trip all the way down here. We have finally come to the end of the show. I hope you enjoyed every part of it? If you have comments for every segment, do not worry Steemit doesnt penalize you for dropping more than 1 comment on a post. Why not express yourself and check out other peoples comment too? It's always fun interacting.
If you love this show and want to support, your SBDs and Steem are very welcomed. Supporters so far are @eurogee, @amec and @samminator @sammest and @smyle. Thanks a lot guys.

I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain

Yours truly

@zizymena.

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