The role of the mother in raising children

The role of the mother in raising children

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The mother has a great place both in social and religious considerations. God has made her righteousness and the most beautiful link to all human bonds. She is the foundation of society. She has the most profound role in building the future generation. She receives her child from the moment she learns of his existence with love. By giving him warmth and tenderness, and find that education is not easy task, overcome some of its difficulties and stumble in others. (1)

Mawardi describes God 's mercy mother with her children and says: "more pity and mothers, and Ofer love, for Bahern from birth, suffered from education, they are thinner hearts and Allen souls. (2)

The role of the mother in raising children

We can summarize the mother's role in raising her children in three main areas: the family and its impact, the mother herself, her culture, background and psychology, and we provide some important guidance to raise children in the early stages of life:

Mother in the family

The mother is the most important individual in the family for child and mother education. It is the school and the educator that creates the younger generations. The mother has reconciled the welfare of the society and the mother takes the lion's share in raising the children because the father is away from the house for long hours of the day. , And note that the association of children with their mother is greater than their relationship with their father, because the mother is the source of tenderness.

Although the mother is physically ready to bear the burdens of childbirth, motherhood and custody, the role of motherhood is not limited to giving children appropriate food, dress and care. The mother's first task in education is to give the child the tenderness he needs. The most important thing the child needs is compassion. The tenderness causes many problems and troubles for the child, and we see many children turn to misconduct because of their poverty of tenderness, and will not say love mother to her children; because love instinct, but to be careful to express the appropriate amount, and granting compassion may be overlooked by some mothers. (3)

The mother must be the pole that proves values ​​in the home. She must realize the value of steadfastness on ethics, create a state of order at home and express to her children in ways appropriate to their age the importance of respect, cooperation, honesty and all social and religious values ​​and can take their positions and attitudes The son comes out of his family with a simple ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and to judge positions from the perspective of his family, and the mother should not worry much about his ability to acquire at this stage as much as It has to be Atom, it acquires good and bad alike quickly. (4)

Mother Nanny

The journey of education begins since the mother carries her child, as the child is affected by the scientific studies. From the material aspect, the mother's food reaches her fetus and affects his health and development. He also has the sense of hearing in the early months of pregnancy so he listens to the sounds and remembers them, Of the senses works with the fetus gradually as it grows and begins to acquire through them, the mother must accept the idea that he is an integrated human and faster acquisition than any other stage, so he develops his feelings to suit their principles. (5)

On the other hand, the mother's emotional state affects the child. Emotional emotions of the mother, according to obstetrician Therese Ramzi, affect the nervous system of the mother and thus the child's development. Adrenaline passes through the placenta to the child. The same prevents them from eating and affects the fetus directly. (5)

In order to prepare the mother at this stage for the next stages and be a good psychic to have faith in the amount and trust, acceptance or joy of procreation affecting the fetus and affect the behavior, and can begin to educate about education and its principles and acquire knowledge about the stages of childhood and characteristics to better deal with her child, Each stage has its own teaching methods. The mother must be free from the bad habits of education that may be prevalent in her society, and prepare to replace them with knowledge based on science, since the human industry is not the task that can be Based on traditions and traditions, if not free of them, we can do it and make the motivation to do so is the sincere love within it towards the next child. (1) , (4)

General rules in raising the mother of her children

1 Communication : Mother should not evade or preoccupied with daily and constant communication with her children at all stages of age, the first challenges of this age is the absence of the mother who was added to the absence of the father in advance, how does the family imagine the birth of the son in the absence of communication with the source of learning and love, The mother can ask her children about their school day or what they saw on their way to buy their belongings so that they get used to telling her and giving them the opportunity to guide them and help them if they have problems that they can not solve themselves, and because communication is a human need in the first place. (1)

2 Enhancement is the praise of good behavior, physical tenderness, or positive behavior. The human being is generally large or small, but it is desirable for children to transmit joy, color, and voice and motor interaction in ways of strengthening them. They can resort to material reward in moderation. When mentioning the reinforcement, it is worth mentioning that if the mother has resorted to punishment, she must avoid insulting her child either in front of others or alone. The insult causes a disturbance in the child's personality, a sense of lack of self-confidence, and may make him shy and does not like mixing with others. Destruction of the child's personality. (4)

3 Parental Consensus Family stability is one of the most important influences on children. The first relationship that a child opens up to is his mother's relationship with his father. He is also a child or a teenager who derives his stability and sense of safety from his mother's sense of security. Family stability supports stability in education. And the father and their positions, and the value of the Son is troubled. (4)

About Early Childhood Education

Here are some of the features of early childhood and how to deal with them, as mothers generally do not give much attention at this stage, thinking that education begins at school age:

1 In early childhood, the child loves discovery, and the mother must meet this by trying as much as possible to satisfy his curiosity, answering his questions honestly and simply, and respecting his question and his knowledge-oriented personality. This does not dispel any rules. .

2 The child tends to take responsibility and the mother can begin handing over some of the daily tasks with clear, few and understandable words and follow up on her implementation.

3 The child tends to play: The mother must allocate time to share the child's game to know his behavioral habits and promote the good ones, and the mother can use the time to play with the child to teach the system and values ​​and develop the skills of motor and cognitive.

After these years the mother has prepared them to enter the school for academic learning, and can begin to teach the prayer, and before it purity, and imparting religious knowledge, especially if asked to ask about it and can before that save her child some Koranic verses, in order to grow the child to love the Islamic religion , And belonging to him, and to love the Koran. (4)

References

(1) Acting on the article The role of mother is essential in child education, almanalmagazine
(2) On behalf of the book of the lower literature and religion, Mawardi, Library of Life, 1986, p. 187.
(3) Acting on the article the importance of the role of the mother in raising the child, old.uqu.edu.sa
(4) Acting on an article, The Role of Women in Education, saaid.net
(5) acting on an article with scientific evidence .. The fetus sees and hears and is affected, kenanaonline.com

By: Mohammed Sofian