thank you @eco-alex, it is good to get input from a male perspective, for me there is a huge level of disrespect being shown towards women when they are treated in that way, it really ties in with this dominant patriarchal rule where behaviour like that is accepted between men and even encouraged. I know that we are not talking about all men, I am very lucky to know men who are always respectful towards women, I do think there needs to be more conversations about this especially in mainstream society, we had a case recently here in Ireland that really brought it to the fore front, so things are changing slowly, but they are changing x