I totally agree with @mountainjewel. That's a really important insight and distinction. It really is more about how much it pisses them off when we take care of and nurture ourselves.
I'm super proud of my boy. He's really amazing. He works hard, is super responsible, is a wonderful friend, and loves to play and be happy. He just couldn't hardly be more awesome.
I totally feel caught up in cultural issues too. On one hand, I feel really strongly about respecting others' cultures, especially when I'm living in their land, and I think for the most part I would respect their norms. I would wear a hijab if I went somewhere that was seen as important, particularly if it was important to other women. That said, I would definitely wear yoga pants daily cause that just seems over the top a little bit to me. I can honor your culture and still be a part of mine. If they're wonky over yoga pants, that oil is gonna be scandalous, but I bet you'll have some women coming to you secretly!!