yeah that's why i'm glad you posed this question.

the oppression of women by men has been and still is unrecognised and yet is out in plain view to see.

the oppression is so pervasive and "normalized" that it's "just the way things are"- we're all taught to perpetrate or subject ourselves to it, until we decide not to accept that role play anymore. then we can shift things. but, like so many things we tackle in qotw (and for that i'm so grateful!), it requires a questioning of our current generation-deep paradigms.

A woman's right to simply Be. Anywhere. Not as a function or for anyone's use.

@artemislives picked out this ethos from my article and this is really the crux for me. ^^^ women existing as complete and whole unto themselves and men respecting women for that reason- not so they can use them (whether emotionally, sexually, etc) or "get something", but, really, both parties coming to the relationship whole unto themselves. that's the core.