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RE: It's Violent to Say "Women Are Asking for It" Because of What They Are Wearing
yeah .. i agree with the whole sentiment .. when it comes to physical contact .. groping is not OK at any time for whatever reason.. and the amount of actual rape that happens is beyond belief if you really know the truth. the oppression of women by men has been and still is unrecognised and yet is out in plain view to see.
the male gaze thing.. yeah fuck it.. i mean you don't need or want their attention im Sure! That is something that is very different depending where you are.. In holland i never saw a guy batter an eye lid most of the time.. and in Thailand its the other way around.. ive been groped by the ass and pestered several times by ladies! or were they ladies?
yeah that's why i'm glad you posed this question.
the oppression is so pervasive and "normalized" that it's "just the way things are"- we're all taught to perpetrate or subject ourselves to it, until we decide not to accept that role play anymore. then we can shift things. but, like so many things we tackle in qotw (and for that i'm so grateful!), it requires a questioning of our current generation-deep paradigms.
@artemislives picked out this ethos from my article and this is really the crux for me. ^^^ women existing as complete and whole unto themselves and men respecting women for that reason- not so they can use them (whether emotionally, sexually, etc) or "get something", but, really, both parties coming to the relationship whole unto themselves. that's the core.