Like all couples, we have had highs and lows. I am not really sure what having a "hero" means. However, I love the idea of a partner. Through-out 25-years we had times that I was the primary earner, and times that he has "out-earned" me. We both have administered soup. We have lifted each other up when we were down. During less "happy" times, we have torn each other down. Nothing in life is perfect, but I am still really happy I have "him" on my side. I hope you figure out what you want in a man, and find it. :) Thanks for commenting.