Love & Marriage 58 - COMMITMENT - Part 3

I write about 7 commitments in marriage or long term relationships.

The first one was the commitment to oneness.
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The second one was the commitment to positive communication.

Now today I write about the commitment to Quality Time

Gary Chapman in his book about "Love languages" list quality time as one of the "five languages"
The more intentional and deliberate the time spent together, the closer you feel to one another.

Dr. Steve Stephens write the following:
He asked a young couple, "How long has it been since you've had quality time together?" They both laughed nervously
"we have three kids," she explained, "I have a demanding job and I am working for a big promotion," he added.
"How long" I insisted, "Two years," he said. "And how long has your marriage been stuck in its current rut?"
"Two years," she said. That night that two climbed out of their rut and had some quality time. It probably saved their marriage.

How can you be sure you have the quality time your marriage needs? Make it a top priority to spend time together doing things you both enjoy. Have a good conversation, a good walk, or just a good time. Life gets crazy and hectic and moves way too fast. If you don't schedule quality time, it doesn't happen. So get your calendar and write it down. Set aside a time alone, without distractions, where the two of you can really connect. Don't let there be any excuses, make time, arrange babysitters. This needs to be an oasis from the external, time where you don't talk about the kids, finances, work, or difficulties. Time where you can relax and develop your friendship and love on a deeper level.

That is why I do the romantic tips for weekends. To try and keep couples in the habit of spending quality time and to schedule a date night. I also made a series of posts about dating.

Yesterday I did the post where I gave ideas and here are some of Dr. Steve Stephens ideas of spending some quality time:

• Cuddle on the couch.
• Dream new dreams together.
• Take a drive.
• Read a book to each other.
• Explore someplace new.
• Talk about your passions.
• Meet at a coffee shop.
• Go on a real romantic date.

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Source Blueprints for a solid marriage. Dr. Steve Stephens Tyndale House Publishers

Thank you for reading, enjoy your spouse, enjoy life!

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