Love & Marriage 55 - COMMITMENT - Part 1
Yesterday I mentioned that true commitment is the entryway into your "marriage home".
In a marriage, there are seven commitments that are absolutely critical. True commitment includes all these commitments.
- Commitment to oneness
- Commitment to positive communication
- Commitment to quality time
- Commitment to growth
- Commitment to faithfulness
- Commitment to honesty
- Commitment to the long haul
Today we look at the first commitment:
- COMMITMENT TO ONENESS
The Bible says that the two joined in marriage shall become one. You are both on the same team. You win or you lose together, laugh or cry together. What hurts your spouse will hurt you. If you work as one, you do nothing that would hurt, discourage, frustrate or limit your spouse. You do the exact opposite and everything in your power to heal, compliment, encourage, build up and strengthen your spouse.
Oneness means whatever you are doing for your partner, you are doing for yourself. You do what is best for the relationship not just what is good for the individuals. Thus a sacred "WE" is formed and in every circumstance, the "me" submits to the "we". This does not mean that you lose yourself, it is just that as the "me" strengthens the "we" the "we" also strengthens the "me" AND SO WE ARE TRULY ONE!
Oneness means sharing, and the more you share, the more you become one. You share your feelings, thoughts, experiences, and laughter. You can even share your pain, needs, worries, and dreams. The most important thing share your LOVE!
Source: Blueprints for a solid marriage, Dr. Steve Stephens, Tyndall House Publishers
To explore this further I looked at the explanation of the source:
http://ourpeacefulfamily.com/two-become-one/
“The requirement for oneness is two complete people.” - is a statement that Dr. Henry Cloud explains in his best selling book, Boundaries in Marriage.
In marriage, two complete and unique people come together to build a bigger, better "marriage home" that they could not build on their own. Spouses become one for a bigger purpose. And as the saying goes, ” two heads are better than one.”
A common reality of two becoming one.
To become one and get married does not mean you have to mold yourself into the absolute likeness of your spouse.
Or agree to everything especially when you know they are wrong. It also doesn’t mean you are going to have the same opinions or beliefs about everything.
It means you get to work and grow together to achieve your marriage goals or build something great.
That quote is so beautiful that I want to repeat it:
“The requirement for oneness is two complete people.” - Dr. Henry Cloud
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Sources as above.
Thank you for reading, be blessed!
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The we is formed, it isn't about adding or subtracting. It is about sharing, I love this post!!
Good post...
A well written post Hope with some good meat to grow on. Thanks.
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