thanks for this! i'll start by saying i originally was going to use your post that we discussed earlier as another thing to bounce off of in this blog, but it got too involved. i'll stick it here now. anxiety is yet another facet of all that goes on. and for me too as a child, muteness.

actually, i totally agree with your first point. there are of course times when 'reflection' applies, but i don't agree it always does. thank you for pointing that out. i also agree about standing ground and facing conflict, but positivism, to the exclusion of anything negative, is one thing that people seem to think is the better solution.

it irks me, but i'm east coast born. i believe we cannot realistically discuss solutions until we learn to listen. discuss what the issue is. there are too many people who don't want to deal with emotions or conflict, don't want to complain because conflict freaks them out. or there is the fear that they might piss off the big power/ money guys and get cut off, so they rattle off the trite positive thinking platitude and nothing is resolved. it's all still buried there, waiting.

as to the sensory perception, I may be HSP, we are very similar there. however i was referring to my nephew. if he goes off medication, he turns into a screaming 5 year old in any setting. he is 14. his case is pretty extreme. my other nephew, his twin, had behavioral issues and adhd which put him in juvenile away school at the age of 12 for disruptive behavior.

on the mistrust, yes, this is a factor in most relationships, but its tainted more by anxiety and fear. i've learned to cope at this stage, but it took about ten years to unlearn the habits from childhood. i still need to work on relationships more than the normal person because i get super anxious. being online is great for the distance and space it provides.

point being is that i want people to realize that there are a lot of things pushed under the radar because people do not want to talk about them. mental illnesses, physical illnesses, underlying conditions. they arent taken seriously as you so aptly wrote, they are covered under insurance in only extreme conditions, and only until it's proven that the parents arent somehow at fault for abusing their kids.

as a society we are looking at this but there are so many generations that are living with this and trying to cope. this is just my way of trying to bring it into the greater social consciousness. awareness is good.

The other key thing I want to point out is that people seem to think introverts should just learn to be extroverted. Like we are just slow and need a book to read about how to do it. I'm a good friend, and I take it a whole lot more seriously because I value it. I don't cheapen it by trying to on and throwing it away when it becomes too much of a hassle. As an introvert I'm really tired of people assuming I should be the one to change to fit extroverted parameters. That is big business talking. No thanks.