RE: What do women really think?..... I dunno, but I can definitely make some money from it.
The impression I get when I read you here is that you seem to pity those who have a regular job.
That would be an incorrect impression. (I'm not big on pity, except with animals). My reply to your other comments will go some way to explaining that.
I grew up in 'poor me' , central.
And even though you seem to revise your words, it still remains a devaluation in the beginning.
The devaluation is a judgment on myself - not others. I would feel like a loser - for me personally - if I was an employee. It's not in my DNA.
I've had jobs, and I'm not all superior about it - but as to my post - if I can help people be financially independent and their own boss - it makes me feel good.
If you want to know what women think, just ask and she will tell you. LOL
Yeah, right...lolol.
Hmm ...
I think we have a different definition of pity. I would like to give an example I encountered and felt myself. When a mother who feels in a certain moment or phase of her life that her child is a burden to her let's other people take care of that child, she might think that the others do feel the same and that she actually puts up a too much of an asked favor towards them. But others can feel completely different with the situation. They might enjoy being with the kid, they might be happy to get the chance of bonding and doing something other than what they usually do . etc. etc.
While one person is pitying the other the other person actually doesn't have to be pitied. They are happy to give support and feel very good in that role.
When I was in that pity-mode I asked my friends or grand parents the moment I came into the room: "How did it go? Everything alright? You must be tired." Many times I was totally wrong with my assumption of them being tired out or having a hard time with my child. I could tell by their answers and expressions that they even didn't know what I was talking about.
Same thing happened vice versa. Friends pitied me when I took care of something they asked me for and I was like: "Huh...?"
gosh, I really can't express myself briefly. Sorry.
Let me clarify it from my perspective....
Some people want to pitied. I hate that. I will not feel pity for such people.
Helping someone in need does not require pity, but empathy, support, and maybe sympathy.
Helping some who wants to be pitied, is a very different thing.
It's manipulative, dark, and an emotional black hole.
I agree. Wanting to help someone out of pity I call "the helpers syndrome".
I see that you distinguish between pity and empathy. I do that, too. I refuse being of pity-service when I feel that another one wants to be pitied. Though it's hard not to become angry at that person. :D LOL.
Why bother trying ?...just be angry! lol
cause I don't want to :D HaHa!