Why dishonesty is worse than cheating
Personally, I identified early in life that being lied to was a lot worse than being cheated on. It is the insult to your affection, your intelligence, the damage to your self worth of finding you believed someone that simply lied to you.
Today I find that this is just as true. Whilst I am not, and have not been in a romantic relationship with anyone but myself for many years, I do not tolerate friends lying to me well at all.
Nor do I tolerate people who think they can take their delusions out on me.
In yet another pickle – a person showing all the signs of narcissism without actually having sufficient wit to have the condition is currently targetting me because he cannot target his preferred option. I have tried ignoring the narc tendencies and being a friend anyway, but this dude tells you that you are attacking him, no matter what the evidence to the contrary, whilst badmouthing you to anyone that will listen.
He is welcome to do this if he wants, it is unlikely to have a significant effect on my life, but this ‘local worthy’ is not very worthy at all. I could go into details, but it is not the place to do it.
I have encountered other people he has done this to, they have reacted strongly to it. I don’t plan to. Why? Because it is not worth my effort to do so. The more he does this, the clearer the pattern of his behaviour becomes, and it just makes what he is doing more obvious.
Eventually, nobody will listen to him at all. Today he announced that he thought the vast majority of people were ‘shit,’ but I was considered relatively OK even as he made numerous threats.
Even if that were true, it would not be helpful for you to notice. Twisty and I have had many a conversation about people’s reactions. It turns out that I am a far happier person than most because I choose to ignore it, even when it severely affects my life.
I think this habit is an important one. If an element of people’s behaviour can be ignored or avoided to reduce your stress levels, then do so. It is just not helpful to react, even inwardly, to resting bitch face, badmouthing or pissy behaviour because it wastes time you could be spending on something a lot more interesting. Just let it go.
It turned out that even though Twisty and I have known each other for almost two decades, I still have many stories he has not heard, because I am usually doing something new. He, on the other hand, likes to burn out synapses by reliving his traumas. I do not think this is helpful to him at all.
So, I think the first motto for today is ‘drop it already.’
The second motto for today is not so good. Do not give the gift of your friendship easily, because most people just waste it.
I think because its become so acceptable we tend to think lying is not a big deal but it is. I used to lie all the time that you don't even think twice anymore. A few years ago I made the decision to try to not lie and be as open and honest as possible. I can't say its been easy ive lost many friends and relationships but hey were they even valuable if honesty is what brings them down?
I try to remain as honest as possible, I do slip up from time to time though!
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Our society 'teaches' us to lie in certain situations to avoid consequences. This makes that most people tend to think a little lie won't hurt. But little lies, turn into big lies pretty often.
Great post, @inadisguise.
I was wondering if you were planning to become more active and post regularly this time. If you do, I'm willing to delegate some of my Steem Power to you, so you don't get locked out because you run out of resource credits.
But before I do that, I'd like to know what your future plans are regarding SteemIt. Just let me know :0)
hi the blog is actually more regular - i usually only post the wider interest ones on steem, but there are hundreds so I could recycle and post daily for quite some time.
I'll be sure to follow up and see how you're doing...
"a person showing all the signs of narcissism without actually having sufficient wit to have the condition"
this line really made me laugh!!!
Cheating is dishonesty. But it's more of being dishonest to oneself rather than to others quite so much. They're both part of the same disease though.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Ah, been there, done that. Yep, it sure is a lot better to ignore those people completely instead of engaging with them in any possible way.
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