Flocking together

Today in a class we were talking about creating habits and improving chances of success. My client was thinking about joining an exercise group for older men which I think is a decent idea considering not only will they have similar goals, there will be the added benefit of social interaction, something that he (like so many these days) lacks.

As I have recently stated, what we surround ourselves matters and this of course includes who we surround ourselves with also. The types of people we associate with have affects on how we behave and influence our view of the world in a spectrum of ways from the obvious tho the very subtle.

One of the things I have noticed over two years at Steem is that those who spend their time with community-minded people are much likely to not only enjoy their experience more, but do better overall. Whereas those that hang with the negative FUD sellers generally don't have much fun here. Which ones have the highest rate of attrition, I wonder.

Part of this can be general differences in personality, but I think that a large part of our comes down to the choice of association and, it is a choice, especially on the internet. The beauty of Steem and the internet I general is that no one need be tied to their born station in life and can explore much more of their world. This is even more true on Steem as anonymity is possible.

I sometimes wonder what kind of person I would act like if I had stayed in my little hometown with the same social circles I had at high school. I say 'act' because that is what it really is. While I might change behaviours depending on social experience, it would still be me, acting.

Sure the action might be unconscious but that just makes it more important to consider the establishment of our habits. Well developed habits make us unconsciously competent which means, e act well without having to think about each move.

The easiest way to develop good habits is to spend time surrounded by people who consistently exhibit those traits. For example, if one wants to get into shape, spend time with people who are actively exercising and eating well rather than those who are happy predominantly sitting on the couch eating junk food.

Again, on Steem it is the same for most people and if you spend most time with those who have a negative view, the chances are that you will develop a negative view too. This works for positive views to though so it depends in what you want to achieve.

There is no problem spending time in many groups but be aware of your thoughts and the habits you are building because it will be those actions that will dictate your behaviours, results and if course, your attitude and experience of life's circumstances.

If you are interested in benefiting from Steem in the longer-term, find people who are thinking, writing and acting for that future position. If you want a quick fix, find people who promise that. No one is forced to associate with anyone in particular here so, who choose to take on the habits of what doesn't support where you want to be?

Taraz
[ a Steem original ]
_{(posted from phone)}

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I am testing using @Partiko for the first time as part of the State of the Dapps blast I wrote about. I have to turn off some notifications I think but so far, so good.

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