maybe the first thing to realize is that there is no formulaic love. everyone gets to do it their way. will it work or not is a question that they have to answer over time.
Some have idyllic relationships and others don't. that is just a fact. we cannot go through lives thinking about what we can do different. some people are matched and others not so much. Even love cannot conquer core differences.
But love is becoming of life for it creates the desire to be together. as a human being, we cannot ask for more
My parents have been married for 30+ years, it certainly isn't all rosy. Marriage is a commitment above anything, and if we go with that impression of 'Happily ever after' before seeing how it really is - it will fail no doubt
That said, it makes no sense for anyone to focus on the 'darker side' because we humans are hopelessly optimistic beings. Be that as it may, no one can deny that it does exist
Your last tag is funny as hell though...seems like it is becoming a thing with you
I've been married for 27 years. It isn't all roses but there is something awesome about figuring out how to constantly adapt to two agendas and find ways to be happy. :)
Relationships always require constant work. Most of all they require a lot of compromises and acceptance to work out in the long term. Empathy is key.
And of course children really test the strength of a couplele unity.
@rok-sivante, This is really important subject which we have to understand and also this is one Subject which gives beautiful life phase or it can push one into the phase of darkness. And there are many who are facing the both phases, as you said, every aspect holds both light and dark side.
First of all i want to talk about the Attraction aspect and that means, in my opinion marriage is an concept of the spiritual aspect and that is because, we have to stay as two body but one soul and two souls can become one through the process of Understanding. But when it comes to the Relationships there is an big drawback and that is, in most of the cases people just attract towards the Physical Appearance and fail to connect with spiritual essence.
And when we just continue an relationship considering the attraction aspect and move towards the decision of marriage, in many cases we saw that over the time these Relationships started to move towards the diminishing stages because, physical aspect is part of an particular relationship and not complete meaning of relationship. So people should understand why they are moving towards an relation, and marriage is one aspect which reborn one individual and that means now your decisions will not affect just you but it will affect your new world which is formed due to marriage.
If anyone agrees or not, now a days the relationships are becoming more materialistic and that means, marriages are becoming more in a way of Agreements and like an strategy, means people analyse one's financial background and then they do the calculation of life, as per these Calculations moving into an relationship and marriage, in my opinion in most cases it leads to the failures because no matter how much wealth one has, if they don't hold the spiritual connection and understanding then that relationship will going to born unseen wars time to time.
Marriage is great and beautiful aspect and it should be the movement of natural and with organic essence and not with materialistic essence. If you have spiritual connections still you will going to face the obstacles, problems, failures and adversity but, here the magic comes in and that means relationships which holds the spiritual connections will going to become strong due to understanding and who lack the spiritual understanding in that relationships most of the times we see Blame Games.
And for sure true Love and Marriage is not any type of fairy tale but yes, if you hold the spiritual understandings then no matter what situation arises, for sure you can make your Relationship an fairytale.
This was an great subject for sure, and keep writing more deep subjects because it expands the knowledge and the understanding and pushes towards the self finding aspects.
What came across: you’re trying to be insightful and share something deep, but you lack the direct experiential experience that actually qualifies you to speak with authority on the matter. That was apparent before even finishing the second paragraph.
Maybe the question would be good: Isn't a happy ending a beginning at the same time and what comes when the film stops?
The time of being in love is true in that you are wide open, surrender to the other and no previous experiences burden the relationship. At the same time one has to take care that the picture I make of John remains a John and was not a Mister Super. But if I only love my own painting, so John never actually existed, then it becomes problematic if I don't want to let go of my idea of a Mister Super. While I am still struggling to turn John into my fantasized Mister Super, all kinds of conflicts arise. My John is who he is and if he doesn't suffer from the same illness as me - seeing a fantasy figure in me - such a relationship can continue to grow. But if he also suffers from his construction of me, then it is very likely that these two figures cannot have a relationship with each other. Because two constructs can't love each other.
When I am in love with myself, I want to know who I am and explore this being "I". I then live responsibly with myself and this makes it much easier for others not to fall for a false image that I may still give of myself.
... Of being compassionate with ourselves as we stumble our way through the learning curves ...
Be gentle with how you describe your way. When you say "stumble" it may be flirting with walking the learning curves but still look at yourself as a stumbler. ;-)
Disney tells lovely stories and we can enjoy them like a delicious desert. When it's eaten, we'll do the dishes.
maybe the first thing to realize is that there is no formulaic love. everyone gets to do it their way. will it work or not is a question that they have to answer over time.
Some have idyllic relationships and others don't. that is just a fact. we cannot go through lives thinking about what we can do different. some people are matched and others not so much. Even love cannot conquer core differences.
But love is becoming of life for it creates the desire to be together. as a human being, we cannot ask for more
My parents have been married for 30+ years, it certainly isn't all rosy. Marriage is a commitment above anything, and if we go with that impression of 'Happily ever after' before seeing how it really is - it will fail no doubt
That said, it makes no sense for anyone to focus on the 'darker side' because we humans are hopelessly optimistic beings. Be that as it may, no one can deny that it does exist
Your last tag is funny as hell though...seems like it is becoming a thing with you
I've been married for 27 years. It isn't all roses but there is something awesome about figuring out how to constantly adapt to two agendas and find ways to be happy. :)
27?! Definitely taking lessons from you too
lol. one small opportunity to have a little more fun with every post... 😜
Relationships always require constant work. Most of all they require a lot of compromises and acceptance to work out in the long term. Empathy is key.
And of course children really test the strength of a couplele unity.
Inspiring!
Almost makes me reconsider my approach of loving people only from afar. :D
Hugs&Coffee,
~Josie~
@rok-sivante, This is really important subject which we have to understand and also this is one Subject which gives beautiful life phase or it can push one into the phase of darkness. And there are many who are facing the both phases, as you said, every aspect holds both light and dark side.
First of all i want to talk about the Attraction aspect and that means, in my opinion marriage is an concept of the spiritual aspect and that is because, we have to stay as two body but one soul and two souls can become one through the process of Understanding. But when it comes to the Relationships there is an big drawback and that is, in most of the cases people just attract towards the Physical Appearance and fail to connect with spiritual essence.
And when we just continue an relationship considering the attraction aspect and move towards the decision of marriage, in many cases we saw that over the time these Relationships started to move towards the diminishing stages because, physical aspect is part of an particular relationship and not complete meaning of relationship. So people should understand why they are moving towards an relation, and marriage is one aspect which reborn one individual and that means now your decisions will not affect just you but it will affect your new world which is formed due to marriage.
If anyone agrees or not, now a days the relationships are becoming more materialistic and that means, marriages are becoming more in a way of Agreements and like an strategy, means people analyse one's financial background and then they do the calculation of life, as per these Calculations moving into an relationship and marriage, in my opinion in most cases it leads to the failures because no matter how much wealth one has, if they don't hold the spiritual connection and understanding then that relationship will going to born unseen wars time to time.
Marriage is great and beautiful aspect and it should be the movement of natural and with organic essence and not with materialistic essence. If you have spiritual connections still you will going to face the obstacles, problems, failures and adversity but, here the magic comes in and that means relationships which holds the spiritual connections will going to become strong due to understanding and who lack the spiritual understanding in that relationships most of the times we see Blame Games.
And for sure true Love and Marriage is not any type of fairy tale but yes, if you hold the spiritual understandings then no matter what situation arises, for sure you can make your Relationship an fairytale.
This was an great subject for sure, and keep writing more deep subjects because it expands the knowledge and the understanding and pushes towards the self finding aspects.
Wishing you an great day and stay blessed. 🙂
You married?
No, but I've shared opinions through my observations and what i feel. Stay blessed. 🙂
That’s what I sensed.
What came across: you’re trying to be insightful and share something deep, but you lack the direct experiential experience that actually qualifies you to speak with authority on the matter. That was apparent before even finishing the second paragraph.
Just sayin’.
I appreciate your genuine response. Stay blessed. 🙂
Nice picture use here!
Maybe the question would be good: Isn't a happy ending a beginning at the same time and what comes when the film stops?
The time of being in love is true in that you are wide open, surrender to the other and no previous experiences burden the relationship. At the same time one has to take care that the picture I make of John remains a John and was not a Mister Super. But if I only love my own painting, so John never actually existed, then it becomes problematic if I don't want to let go of my idea of a Mister Super. While I am still struggling to turn John into my fantasized Mister Super, all kinds of conflicts arise. My John is who he is and if he doesn't suffer from the same illness as me - seeing a fantasy figure in me - such a relationship can continue to grow. But if he also suffers from his construction of me, then it is very likely that these two figures cannot have a relationship with each other. Because two constructs can't love each other.
When I am in love with myself, I want to know who I am and explore this being "I". I then live responsibly with myself and this makes it much easier for others not to fall for a false image that I may still give of myself.
Be gentle with how you describe your way. When you say "stumble" it may be flirting with walking the learning curves but still look at yourself as a stumbler. ;-)
Disney tells lovely stories and we can enjoy them like a delicious desert. When it's eaten, we'll do the dishes.
Romantic love story.
I believe, true love is love that leads to a marriage @rok-sivante