Relationship Talk V, Contributed By @Olawalium
…continued… from part 1 and part 2 and part 3 and part 4
In a relationship, you need to appreciate your partner. You can only appreciate the person you love and respect. You need to appreciate your partner at every given opportunity. Be objective with your analysis. Never tell your spouse something looks good on him or her when it doesn’t. When something looks good on your spouse also, make sure you give the compliment.
We always want to go to where we are appreciated and not where we are tolerated. The truth is, if you don’t appreciate your partner, someone else will do the appreciation outside and your spouse’s heart will get drawn to people outside more than you. Your spouse might begin to even start dressing to receive their admiration.
A lot is expected of you the moment you decide to go into a relationship. Relationship requires a lot of effort and I always tell people it is a lot of hard work. Many people still don’t understand the place of sacrifice in a relationship. It has never been and can never be about who is right or wrong, but about doing the best for each other with a little bit of consideration in place.
A lot of people just want to have someone to call their own without looking at the other aspect of relationship. We sometimes go into relationship with the wrong mindset and a lot of people try to import the extra baggage they have gotten from their last relationship into the new one. The often want the benefits they enjoyed in the last relationship to be a mandatory criteria in the new one, forgetting that every relationship is peculiar and different, and it is left to us to find the things that excites us in the new one.
There are a lot of people who go into a relationship and they are not ready. You need to be ready and feel ready before going into one, because it is expected you give your all. Heal if you need to heal, let go if you need to and also develop new habit if you need to, but the most important thing is to start your new relationship on a clean slate. Get to the point where your past won’t bother you so much to affect your new relationship or require the help of your new partner by keeping such person in the know before you go into a new one.
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Appreciate matters in relationship so also in every area of our life, a Yoruba adage says, a person that one helped that refused to appreciate or acknowledge is like a thief that comes in the middle of the night who drives someone property away without notice. In anything not only in relationship, appreciation matter as it will make the person that did it, does more. I can say maturity doesn't have anything to do with age, I'm not talking of teen here, some of us are in relationship because we will others hanging around, playing love. While some of us venture into relationships because of what you tend to gain or receive and not what we can give. If you are with the mindset, relationship isn't love you. It is better you stay alone than dangling into it because you will regret it if not blaming yourself in the end. Relationships should be about what you can give if you seek relationships with that mindset then you will see that it will last longer if not everlasting, I meant till death do you part.
Appreciation goes a long way. It makes your partner know he or she is appreciated and when your partner is appreciated, there is no limit to the length they can go for you. We are all humans and we have our soft spots. Appreciation makes us want to do more.
Dear friend @olawalium
The value of relationships can be understood only on the person who understands the importance of relationships. The sacred relation is made of a delicate door which breaks the differences with a slight shock. After coming into a relationship, we have to compromise with many of our habits because dedication is very important for relationships.
It is very important to get ideas for it. It is important to take care of each other to take care of others respect.
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Yes, it is important to take care of each other and respect each other in a relationship. For those who understand the value of a relationship, they will definitely know what it takes to build one. One the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. We need to understand the purpose of our relationship because that would make us give our all and show the right value.