I hate when parents yell at their kids. It’s so stupid to me. One adult sized baby yelling at one normal sized baby. As adults our job is to raise other tiny humans and teach them how to be. The way we do this is by example. The way you react to conflict, dilemmas, aggression, disagreement, etc. is how your children will react. Maybe not at first but after watching your consistent behavior they will.
So many times I see children become overwhelmed with their emotions and in turn the parents not only do the same but then blame their kids for making them upset. Either because the kids aren’t acting correctly or they are being selfish or literally any other reason you could think of. Well, they’re kids. Of course they are selfish. You have to teach them not to be.
Instead of getting frustrated with a child try to explain what they should be doing in a calm tone and ask them if they understand. If they are upset listen to them and repeat their feelings back in a way that makes them feel acknowledged. Share a time when you felt the same way. Not to compare but to relate. So they know they aren’t alone.
Take the time. Or you’re going to raise assholes.