Playing the victim is such an appealing role because it absolves us of responsibility. For some it's easier to play the role of a victim because they've actually be en wronged in the past. The problem is that from the perspective of a victim, there's very little they can do to actually fix their situation. This is he definition of being disempowered, but empower,ent comes from seriously asking the question "What can I do about it?" The situation only changes when taking responsibility even when what happened in the past is out of our hands and sometimes leaves us at a disadvantage.