Compassion, understanding and humanity, how I messed up

A couple of days ago someone said a thing that appalled me. It was something they said they thought about all of the people in their country. Along the lines of the comments that all the humans in the country are stupid assholes and they should die. It was an ultimate turn-off for a conversation, especially with a person that just contacted me.

Usually people start with small talk and when the question ''where are you from?'' drops, nobody is expecting to receive more than a name. I got so much more... For me the fact that you don't know every person in your country alone excludes the use of ''Everybody''. I can not possibly judge somebody I don't know, heck, it is not usually appropriate to judge somebody you do know. Plus if you are saying that everybody, I repeat, EVERYBODY, is bad in your country, you are saying the same about yourself. You are from the country.

And changing your nationality is not going to change it, you are part of the problem. If your country is really that bad, if you feel compelled to talk about it with a person you just met, why don't you try to do something about it? I am not entirely happy with how my government is running things, I don't live in my country, but I want to return one day, make things better, and I will never call everybody, from the place I come, horrible, dreadful human beings.

Now here is the flip of the coin for me. I wasn't feeling great talking to this person, I may have been harsh, having had a bad day myself, plus I didn't like how he talked about his own people, in the end we are all the same race, we are all human. But as the conversation went on I realized a crucial thing. This person was talking to a lot of people online yet I didn't hear about any real life friends.

I realized not soon enough that he was probably lonely and just needed somebody to put his heart out to. I messed up. You see, I am an emotional person, if somebody rubs me off the wrong way, I will not pretend he didn't. I was cold in talking to this poor soul that just needed someone.

It went like this. When I realized the lonely part of his person I asked a direct question ''Do you have somebody to talk to in rl?'' This got him offended, and I can see why, most people wouldn't like the question. My bad mood, with the bad intro in the conversation didn't end it well for us. I could have formulated my question better... I did explain, that I was worried in a message after, because nobody should be lonely and if he needed talking, I could listen. I am not a huge fan of chatting, sometimes it is great, but most of the time I prefer voice talking.

Long story short, he blocked me, left me a sweet message saying he hoped all the best for me. And that is something that made me feel worse about myself as a person. I realized far too late about what I should have done, I didn't have enough compassion, I am sorry for how cold I was.

Now it is off my chest.

I hope there are not a lot of people in the world being let down, I certainly am going to try being nicer, more understanding and more open minded. And I can not change what happened, but the future hasn't been set in stone, yet, that is where I can improve every day.