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RE: A.N.Y. Questions... J-ust O-ver B-roke (Question #32)
Yes i do and let me count the ways.
-i stayed even when i was bullied,i fought back and didnt let their incompetence won including the manager.
-the grass isnt always greener on the other side,even if its more money and higher position.
-i actually love what i do,some colleagues are friends,some patients are appreciative and having no expectations with the management to care about their staff.
-working 2x a week is not much money but enough for cheap travels in between.
I too have had jobs where I woke up in the morning and looked forward to the day ahead. I have also had jobs that I dreaded being there every minute. There have been positions where I brought the best out of my managers and the worst. It's been a smorgasbord of experiences. It's only lately that I realized that my job is to serve a purpose and not be the "be all and end all". That has helped tremendously with my attitude towards my 9 to 5. I also now understand that I need to set myself up for success in my job life if I want my passion life to flourish. I'm glad you love what you do. I haven't had that experience... my jobs have been money orientated ventures.
Thank you for your comment :)
The best for some may not be for the rest. Success have different meanings for all of us.
I hope that for most people, they are happy with what they do. I have noticed that the highest position and salary some people have, they are not happy and content.
"I'll be happy when" plagues a lot of people for they find that when they receive the object of their desire they are not happy. Happiness needs to be the fuel to attain the object not only the brass ring. I used to live like that:
When I have this job or...
When my boys do that....
When I get this money...
or when I go on this trip I will feel happy. Some future endeavor or goal was the carrot in front of my eyes. What I didn't realize was that I was miserable for most of the time and when I finally got the prize that joy was short lived for the next target had to be set. Once set, the misery and cycle started again. When I jumped off that hamster wheel and looked for happiness in the present, I was able to find joy in the process :)
Good for you. The conditioning is there from the start that it's difficult to get out of. Lots of people dont know the meaning of simplicity.
Do you know what snapped me out of it? I was over at my mom's place and she was running around her house cleaning like a chicken with it's head cut off. The irony was that she never got her house to the point where she could sit back and relax. She kept saying to me, "When I get this housework done I'll be happy". The truth was that she never really became happy. She then would find another project and she would say the same thing about that. I then realized I followed in her footsteps and kept projecting my happiness into the future.
I find that there is a balance here that needs to be found and it's not easy to define. We are to look outside our current reality to find what makes us happy yet feel good about the present situation that doesn't. It's not meant to be a escape but instead to be a projection of what we really want. It's like the current pattern that people live in is the fantasy version of this, a counterfeit so to speak. Maybe the difference is whether action is attached to that "day dreaming" or is it just thought. Hmmmm....
It's difficult to say..am not sure but i think it's a state of the mind. Where at some point life becomes a cycle and you arent happy at a time when you think you should. Then you'll think something needs to change.
Somebody did say, it's not where you are, not who you are with, that you become happy etc.