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RE: June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hack - Day Twenty Four: All People Are Ok, It's Their Actions That, Sometimes, Just Aren't
A long enough distance so their actions won't hurt you, but still compassion.
Great reflections! But here's the dilemma: if you believe every person has an ok side which is overshadowed by her actions, would you intervene to change her behavior, stay away to protect yourself or remove her from your entourage to protect all?
Your question isn't a one-size fits all answer @gadrian.
But, first layer, humans can't 'change' other humans. Only God can do that.
The mean vixen might be kind for a minute; but, without her choosing to operate in the Light of Jesus, she'll relapse.
Secondly, if your wife is this vixen, and she's not harming you or the kids, then you would do well to teach her what love is by example. Some people grow up in really dysfunctional families; and, they bring into their relationships all of that 'junk'...not because they're mean; but, it's how their parents showed love one to the other. She will have to grow into what genuine love is.
So, in this regard, the third layer is the most difficult one of all...LOVE even the unlovely things about a person... That's why the clergy adds 'for better, for worse' in the marriage vows...
As @dragosroua stated...a safe distance from those whose habits/lifestyles would be detrimental to the family unit.
Divorce is a personal thing between God and the spouses; thus, I wouldn't touch that conversation with a ten-foot pole.
@gadrian, I hope this helps.
Peace.
That's what I already wrote :)
It's very hard to "intervene to change one person's behavior". Because it's impossible to convince a person that he's dreaming, right from within the dream.
Yep, it would be strange to give a different answer, since I already quoted you on that. :)
I also believe change can only come from within, as textbook quote as it sounds.