There is a painful irony in what you have shared. You shared that you masked your personal pain, and that you did, but how horrible that victims are pressured into silence in these horrific situations. And why? To protect the predator? Do we not want them to experience the discomfort of public scrutiny for their actions so we instead place a stigma on being abused? WTF? Is it to protect the family image? Is it some shame that someone has been victimized? Or is the useless POS who committed the crime part of the family so we pretend it didn't happen so it won't be uncomfortable when we carve the turkey together at the holidays? Are you kidding me? Break out the tar and feathers. Put them in town square in stocks. Tattoo "Abusive Ass" on their forehead. Victims should be able to hold their heads high and testify to their sufferings to that the beast that perpetrated them will been seen for what they are. Darkness hate the light, and when we stifle truth by trying to smooth things over as if somehow being hurt is a disgrace. Not to mention that many abusive predators are not content when they finish their hunt. Many will hunt again, and those who create a hostile environment for the wounded are complicit with the continued evil that so often occurs. If you don't want your name associated with humiliating, cowardly attacks on others... let's see... don't hurt people! It isn't as if these things are accidents. We need to embrace the victims of crime and hold them up, dispelling the notion that their experiences lessen their value or have left them soiled. We need to decide as a society that these behaviors deserve to be crushed out of existence... along with those who commit them. Let the truth be told... let not even shadows remain where the evil can duck for cover. Heal and be well. No longer wear the chains of tormentors who pour the salt of shame or guilt into the wounds of abuse. You got this.