If you believe that birds of a feather flock together what do you know about your friends?

Friend. When you think of that word what comes to mind? Each one of us has different expectations of the people in our life who share this distinction. Unfortunately, like the word love, it is overused and has lost it's potency. Another component is that it's completely subjective; what classifies as a friend to one person may not resonate with another. This imbalance in power has caused countless hurtful feelings that ended with the words, "I thought you were my friend".

Three Amigos

Jim Rohn says that our income is the average of the five people we spend the most time with. I'm not really sure if that's good or bad news. My current circle of friends consist of three people who have walked through many fires with me; I couldn't ask for more loyal people. When I was lost there were the beacon to help guide me home. Lately I have also noticed another similarity we have in common; we all seem to be struggling financially There may be some truth to the adage that birds of a feather flock together. Now what happens? I don't want to stay in my current financial situation.

Hearing Voices

We all have that little voice inside our head that tells us the truth. Now, whether that voice is listened to is a completely different story. I have heard the whispers in my ear about my friends. I try not to create scenarios in my mind concerning the future because I simply do not know. My heart tells me that my friends are friends forever but this adage concerns me. My plans and goals for my future are going in a different direction than two of my friends. I am blessed that one of my friends is walking along me in this journey of the Common Guru; the other two are still struggling to find their purpose. If I change my currently reality will that mean my friends change too? It's not only the financial situation that tugs at my heart.

Only the Lonely

Even as I write this I don't know what to say or how to say it. Despite the closeness I have with my friends I feel a distance there as well. I've tried to quantify this distance and see if there is an emotional healing component to it. That would be awesome news if it was for that's easily remedied; I address the belief and the distance will disappear. I'm beginning to think that it may not. My heart's desire is to overcome what binds us as humans to the pain we feel. This paradigm we have currently about pain and suffering is an illusion I want to break. This is what I believe is at the heart of the distance because I'm not sure if my friends are interested to do the same. How do I know this? Through some of our conversations I have hit a wall within them where they are resistant to change. This resistance separates us. My hope is that we don't slowly grow apart but instead grow together so that we can become a flock again.

Did this response resonate with you? I would love to hear your take on the question and how it impacted you. Please post your thoughts below.

On January first, I posted our first article in this series explaining a new way to approach New Year's resolutions. Each day we will explore a different question that challenges us to understand ourselves better. The format will be as follows: I will post the previous day's question with my answer followed by the next day's question for contemplation.

Tomorrow's question: What criteria do you use to determine who is helpful to you and who is harmful?

Response posted tomorrow.

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