Wow @cwen, i like the points you made,

be with positive people
Read book from Rick Warren
Be engaged in what you like to do

I like the fact that you stress that

You will loose what you are afraid to loose

I think i have been there and the points you made helped me out. Friendship goes a long long way. I wish to see more from you these days, until you are totally upped. I like the fact that you took time to explain what you passed through. That is very bold, thankz so much sis(if i am permitted to use that language on you, despite the fact i am still like a son to you😀) enjoy ma