I saw a text when other people like you it's a bonus, you liking yourself is the real prize. Our actions impact others in ways we can't imagine, causing grief, envy, love, pity and all different emotions but at the end of it all, is how we see ourselves, our self love and given my opinion, a shift in paradigm should be directed to our values and beliefs. Some want to build a life, others want to live a life, what you intend to do, you're right focus on that, live your life be happy be free.