Something has stuck with me for a long time. My 6th grade science teacher, of all people, told the class it's fine to laugh at something someone can change. She said something like, "You can laugh about me being fat, because it's something I can control through my choices." This is social pressure. We could have a wonderful discussion about the merits and problems with this attitude. But more importantly, she said, don't make fun of something someone can't change. And, never forget Wheaton's Law:

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