Here we are with something really worth reading. Our relationship before and during traveling. Things to compare for us and some healthy things for you to rethink, guys.
This post is not gonna be like ‘How to make your boyfriend fall in love with you more’ or ‘ What to do when she is cheating on me’ .... A little bit of my side, a little bit from Yan's. How we deal being together 24/7 and many more.
- +Photo savings from our lifestyle <3
Not that I am a psychologist to teach how to manage your relationships, but I have seen couples that were a good example for healthy relationships and also not so healthy which I took as a ‘won’t do’ lesson.
A LITTLE INTRO
We are a couple for 2 years and our difference in age is 9 years. Which you may think is too much and we are so different for each other or whatever. But, you know as they say, if it’s love, nothing can beat it.
One more thing to say, WE DON’T care about what people are gossiping or thinking about us, because our relationship is our happiness and we are not going to destroy it.
TIPS FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
I have seen a lot of Facebook posts or Instagram pictures with quotes, that couple who doesn’t fight or doesn’t have any conflicts, they are not growing in their relationship and it’s not a real one.
PEOPLE, helloo??!!?? Couples who are fighting all the time are not people who need to be together. Run away from that.
BEING TOGETHER 24/7
When we were getting ready for our traveling we were aware of things that can change. For example, how many posts we have read that people are breaking up after only few months of travelling together. And the fact that we are going to be 24/7 together seemed unreal and we thought that we will be tired of each other.
As I didn’t know anything how it’s gonna be, I was afraid...but as soon as we started our journey, I understood that we can deal with our relationship.
We are very childish couple, we love adventures and creating memories and meanwhile everything goes through humor, laughs and a lot of hugs.
There was a situation when we were running out of money, of course, we were a bit nervous, but still, we make fun of it, like, how cool would be a life on the street :D
Personally, I am not a conflict person at all, like I can’t even imagine when was my last fight with someone. Yan is understandig and also is not getting in to the conflicts.
If we have some problems we TALK! We do not play those silence games, like, oh I am not going to talk to him, he needs to do it first and then I’ll forgive. By not talking to each other we are just hurting ourselves. Calm down, hold your hands and talk it out!
We had some situations where we could be in fight and not talking to each other, BUT, instead of it we just have a chilled conversation, where we discuss our things. We come to a compromise and continue to live in HARMONY with each other.
DOING EVERYTHING TOGETHER
People may think that if you do everything together, you get tired and you need completely different hobbies to do. Honestly, we want to be like an inspirational example for doing everything together.
- We skydive together. When we were in our home town, we used to spent our holidays in drop zone. We chat with our friends, we exchange the experience with others. We jump together, the main thing is we are having FUN. You can’t be unhappy skydiver :)
Now lets take a look from another perspective. If Yan wouldn’t involve me in skydiving I would do something else probably, but the thing is we wouldn’t share those emotions and memories, we wouldn’t be so close and, I think we wouldn’t understand each other so much as we do now.
- We enjoy cooking together, at least I do :D It’s not so boring anymore when you are in kitchen with someone and its way more faster!! We share our knowledge about cooking and in the end we enjoy the best-healthy-delicious meal.
Also, we travel, we surf, we hike TOGETHER and I can continue this list. You want to say it’s too much? Well, depends on how to look on that. We are having fun doing all of those things.We are each others best friends, we create memories together, because imagine yourself sitting in a swinging chair in your 70’s watching photos and saying...DO YOU REMEMBER? This is what matters.
Of course, we give a space for ourselves and sometimes it’s really needed.
When we were in Goa, I felt so active and I wanted to explore and to see everything, but Yan had kind of a lazy mood, he had a vacation there, he wanted to have a well deserved rest.
For the fist days I couldn’t accept it, I didn’t understand how is it you want to lay in bed and chill out? I was getting a little angry on him, but then, I focused and understood his mood, he didn’t have a vacation like this in his whole life. After accepting it, I felt such a relief.
There were times when we wanted to live separately, not that we are done with our relationship, don’t get it wrong, just a HEALTHY living separately. But we didn’t have a chance to do it, so we had to step over it and so we did :D As you see, still going good.
There are no things we are not allowing to do for each other, it creates freedom and when you feel free, you are happy, right? Just trust your beloved one and forget about jealousy, if person loves you, you will feel it, if not, don’t hold on to that, leave with peace and find your true love.
PERSON AND SUPPORT
Probably, most of the things depends on what person really is.
We are very childish couple, we love adventures and creating memories and meanwhile everything goes through humor, laughs and a lot of hugs, trusting and understanding. This is the best medicine for a healthy relationship.
One more thing to feel confident and safe in our relationship we SUPPORT each other.
For example, when we did Annapurna circuit and the most difficult day came, I thought I will die on that pass, probably, if I would be alone, I would return to a base camp and never get on that pass again. Thanks to Yan, he helped me, he supported, he motivated and he cared.
We do support each other in our decisions, we advice each other and sometimes we teach each other. 2 heads are better than one, especially, during the traveling :D
MORE ACTION creates MORE POSITIVITY and it equals HAPPINESS
I remember the day we arrived to Bali. Everything happened so smooth, but yet so fast. We surfed, we met friends, we got tanned, we explored island and we did camping.
Now I realize that life in Bali is for us. We can do the things we love, we can share the good energy with each other. Bali was like a fresh, green, big wave breaking on us and it made us stronger, more connected to each other.
TRAVELING IS A GREAT WAY TO UNDERSTAND IF THE PERSON IS REALLY MEANT FOR YOU.
I was absolutely lucky to meet a girl like Juta. So calm, so caring and understanding, she loves to explore and she loves to learn.
Building a strong relationship starts with a right choice of partner. My personal opinion is that it’s better to be alone than being in unhealthy relationship and it’s important to learn how to be happy alone. If you’re miserable, no one but yourself will help you and hoping that someone will show up in your life and make things bright and beautiful doesn’t work either. Luckily, I was very happy on my own and I wouldn’t just let anyone into my life, person needs to be just right. You need to have harmony with your partner, otherwise it’s not worth it.
Another thing is that strong relationships don’t just happen, you need to work on them and work hard. Every word you say, any action you do is important and makes difference in future.
You can compare it to growing crops. If you plant good healthy seed, your crops will have better chances to grow healthy and strong. The more positive work you put into gardening, the better chances your crops will have. With each word and each action you’re planting those seeds into your relationship and if you care about them enough and don’t plant any weed around those beautiful seeds, your relationship will bloom as the most beautiful flowers in the world bloom.
We are together for 2 years now and not even once we had a fight or a necessity to shout at each other. We care what we plant into our relationship and the result is harmony and happiness.
This is an honest post, we do not color anything and we don’t want you to think that we wrote it because we need to, we did it, because it matters :)
Be free to spread your thoughts and share your experience or opinion. Will be glad to read them.
SHARE LOVE, MAKE LOVE.