HOW WE DEAL WITH EACH OTHER /// Relationship during 4 months of traveling

in #travel6 years ago (edited)

Here we are with something really worth reading. Our relationship before and during traveling. Things to compare for us and some healthy things for you to rethink, guys.

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This post is not gonna be like ‘How to make your boyfriend fall in love with you more’ or ‘ What to do when she is cheating on me’ .... A little bit of my side, a little bit from Yan's. How we deal being together 24/7 and many more.

  • +Photo savings from our lifestyle <3

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Not that I am a psychologist to teach how to manage your relationships, but I have seen couples that were a good example for healthy relationships and also not so healthy which I took as a ‘won’t do’ lesson.

A LITTLE INTRO

We are a couple for 2 years and our difference in age is 9 years. Which you may think is too much and we are so different for each other or whatever. But, you know as they say, if it’s love, nothing can beat it.
One more thing to say, WE DON’T care about what people are gossiping or thinking about us, because our relationship is our happiness and we are not going to destroy it.

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TIPS FROM SOCIAL MEDIA

I have seen a lot of Facebook posts or Instagram pictures with quotes, that couple who doesn’t fight or doesn’t have any conflicts, they are not growing in their relationship and it’s not a real one.

PEOPLE, helloo??!!?? Couples who are fighting all the time are not people who need to be together. Run away from that.

BEING TOGETHER 24/7

When we were getting ready for our traveling we were aware of things that can change. For example, how many posts we have read that people are breaking up after only few months of travelling together. And the fact that we are going to be 24/7 together seemed unreal and we thought that we will be tired of each other.

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As I didn’t know anything how it’s gonna be, I was afraid...but as soon as we started our journey, I understood that we can deal with our relationship.

HOW?

We are very childish couple, we love adventures and creating memories and meanwhile everything goes through humor, laughs and a lot of hugs.

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There was a situation when we were running out of money, of course, we were a bit nervous, but still, we make fun of it, like, how cool would be a life on the street :D

Personally, I am not a conflict person at all, like I can’t even imagine when was my last fight with someone. Yan is understandig and also is not getting in to the conflicts.

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If we have some problems we TALK! We do not play those silence games, like, oh I am not going to talk to him, he needs to do it first and then I’ll forgive. By not talking to each other we are just hurting ourselves. Calm down, hold your hands and talk it out!

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We had some situations where we could be in fight and not talking to each other, BUT, instead of it we just have a chilled conversation, where we discuss our things. We come to a compromise and continue to live in HARMONY with each other.

DOING EVERYTHING TOGETHER

People may think that if you do everything together, you get tired and you need completely different hobbies to do. Honestly, we want to be like an inspirational example for doing everything together.

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  • We skydive together. When we were in our home town, we used to spent our holidays in drop zone. We chat with our friends, we exchange the experience with others. We jump together, the main thing is we are having FUN. You can’t be unhappy skydiver :)

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Now lets take a look from another perspective. If Yan wouldn’t involve me in skydiving I would do something else probably, but the thing is we wouldn’t share those emotions and memories, we wouldn’t be so close and, I think we wouldn’t understand each other so much as we do now.

  • We enjoy cooking together, at least I do :D It’s not so boring anymore when you are in kitchen with someone and its way more faster!! We share our knowledge about cooking and in the end we enjoy the best-healthy-delicious meal.

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Also, we travel, we surf, we hike TOGETHER and I can continue this list. You want to say it’s too much? Well, depends on how to look on that. We are having fun doing all of those things.We are each others best friends, we create memories together, because imagine yourself sitting in a swinging chair in your 70’s watching photos and saying...DO YOU REMEMBER? This is what matters.

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Of course, we give a space for ourselves and sometimes it’s really needed.

When we were in Goa, I felt so active and I wanted to explore and to see everything, but Yan had kind of a lazy mood, he had a vacation there, he wanted to have a well deserved rest.

For the fist days I couldn’t accept it, I didn’t understand how is it you want to lay in bed and chill out? I was getting a little angry on him, but then, I focused and understood his mood, he didn’t have a vacation like this in his whole life. After accepting it, I felt such a relief.

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There were times when we wanted to live separately, not that we are done with our relationship, don’t get it wrong, just a HEALTHY living separately. But we didn’t have a chance to do it, so we had to step over it and so we did :D As you see, still going good.

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There are no things we are not allowing to do for each other, it creates freedom and when you feel free, you are happy, right? Just trust your beloved one and forget about jealousy, if person loves you, you will feel it, if not, don’t hold on to that, leave with peace and find your true love.

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PERSON AND SUPPORT

Probably, most of the things depends on what person really is.

We are very childish couple, we love adventures and creating memories and meanwhile everything goes through humor, laughs and a lot of hugs, trusting and understanding. This is the best medicine for a healthy relationship.

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One more thing to feel confident and safe in our relationship we SUPPORT each other.
For example, when we did Annapurna circuit and the most difficult day came, I thought I will die on that pass, probably, if I would be alone, I would return to a base camp and never get on that pass again. Thanks to Yan, he helped me, he supported, he motivated and he cared.

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We do support each other in our decisions, we advice each other and sometimes we teach each other. 2 heads are better than one, especially, during the traveling :D

MORE ACTION creates MORE POSITIVITY and it equals HAPPINESS

I remember the day we arrived to Bali. Everything happened so smooth, but yet so fast. We surfed, we met friends, we got tanned, we explored island and we did camping.
Now I realize that life in Bali is for us. We can do the things we love, we can share the good energy with each other. Bali was like a fresh, green, big wave breaking on us and it made us stronger, more connected to each other.

TRAVELING IS A GREAT WAY TO UNDERSTAND IF THE PERSON IS REALLY MEANT FOR YOU.

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YAN TALKS

I was absolutely lucky to meet a girl like Juta. So calm, so caring and understanding, she loves to explore and she loves to learn.

Building a strong relationship starts with a right choice of partner. My personal opinion is that it’s better to be alone than being in unhealthy relationship and it’s important to learn how to be happy alone. If you’re miserable, no one but yourself will help you and hoping that someone will show up in your life and make things bright and beautiful doesn’t work either. Luckily, I was very happy on my own and I wouldn’t just let anyone into my life, person needs to be just right. You need to have harmony with your partner, otherwise it’s not worth it.

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Another thing is that strong relationships don’t just happen, you need to work on them and work hard. Every word you say, any action you do is important and makes difference in future.

You can compare it to growing crops. If you plant good healthy seed, your crops will have better chances to grow healthy and strong. The more positive work you put into gardening, the better chances your crops will have. With each word and each action you’re planting those seeds into your relationship and if you care about them enough and don’t plant any weed around those beautiful seeds, your relationship will bloom as the most beautiful flowers in the world bloom.

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We are together for 2 years now and not even once we had a fight or a necessity to shout at each other. We care what we plant into our relationship and the result is harmony and happiness.

This is an honest post, we do not color anything and we don’t want you to think that we wrote it because we need to, we did it, because it matters :)

Be free to spread your thoughts and share your experience or opinion. Will be glad to read them.

SHARE LOVE, MAKE LOVE.

Yours,

Extreme Romance

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that's so great, I like everything in those photos, that memories willl last forever on Steem Blockchain

Thank you! Hopefully this blockchain will live longer then us, so when we'll be old, we will be able read blogs from our young times :)

bhai where are you belong i think you are a successful person
please help me and up vote and comment on my post

For me its quite important the sea, it makes everything easier.
I enjoyed the best holidays in Gran Canaria, an island that offers infinite possibilities and if you dont fell in love with your boy anymore, you do it with the island!

If you think that you need another person for good, you are wrong. As long as we do not learn to enjoy our own company, we will not find real satisfaction in the other society, only a temporary and often deceptive complacency.
Learn to love and appreciate the most important person who will have to spend the rest of your life - yourslelf.🙏😉

Sincerely, one of the most beautiful and most memorable steimit posts I have ever read.
You are an example for others!!!

Its extremely fun if you have an adventure with your loved one. Exploring different parts of the world and sharing the best of nature that it can offer. It is really unforgettable experience. MAke the most of your time while you are still couple coz whenever you have already a baby then everything will be change - you will focus on your lovely baby and no time to travel and have some outdoor adventure. :)

Yes,its good to spend time together and enjoy while still have no baby.

You are right, that's why we are trying to explore and experience as much as possible while we don't have big responsibilities, but saying the truth, we've ,met so many people during our journey that travel with their little children. It's not an easy task, but still possible :)

Beautiful .. The place looks amazing, it is worth taking care of it more
Great pictures from you, well done
Thanks for sharing..

Thank you @slimanepro! We're glad you liked it.

You guys are so beautiful together, I'd drop some advices but you already have it covered.

great stuff guys

Yes, I've been traveling around the world for 5 1/2 years and started with such a situation for 7 months, it is the absolute best way to get to know one another, best continued luck to you!

Thanks a lot! Yes, we thought so too. Traveling together and being exposed to each other 24/7 is the best way to know each other. We think that if your relationship can survive a long traveling experience together, then there's not much that can destroy it.

Hello @extremeromance! And my couple with my husband for 13 years! All these years we travel together, visited already 20 countries. It is very difficult to find a person who will be for you a couple in everything. Travel is a small life, a test of trust, friendship and love. I wish you that your journey lasted for many more years!

What an incredible journey you two have had together so far :) it’s amazing, such beautiful writing and beautiful people ! It’s great to see people connect like this and finding the right people, who actually talk about things etc. So many of my friends are in relationship just for the sake of it, I swear they don’t even like eachother and always do things behind eachothers back etc... you two have it solid! There is always ups and downs in everything, but the bigger picture of life is what is important 😀
Peace and love to you both! Enjoy Bali and keep on making it work, having a life full of love, travel and experiences is so cool! I’ve just landed in Thailand and I’m so happy to be back! Amazing food, great weather... oh and I’m doing a Muay Thai camp so I’m currently unable to walk after my first session... haha! 👊❤️

We too have plenty of friends who are in relationships simply for sake of it, some of them even married, but hey, it's their choice. We're superglad that you're back to Thailand and that you're doing some intensive training. As they say, healthy body is occupied by healthy soul. Good luck in training our dear friend!

Built a strong personality and thing higher than your present Livingston are if you're limiting your mind in growth perspective,in the meantime you are also putting boundaries in your mind not to be extend the great thought consciously you are trying to stop your growth your mind and you are feeling scarcity.if you don't find growth in your consciously mind through proper imagination , it is quite difficult to bring the same into the real life . Create everything consciously in mind through proper imagination and belief they will manifest in the real life . basically average people put limit in there mind through disbelief and permission and repeatedly they blame other for their failure and less productive .
You are always responsibility for your own life not other remember it....... thank u

What stood out to me was doing everything together and personal support. The age difference does not matter. Love is love and you both seem to be like peanut butter and jelly. I am so glad you are traveling the world and showing us so many expressions of life and love regardless of where we may find ourselves. I am now a fan and a follower. Happy traveling @extremeromance.

Thank you ! Ha ha, we love to be like peanut butter and jelly :) World is so big and yet so many people tend to stay at home, we're glad that we can show them what's out there, so one day they'll decide to go exploring too :)

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