It isn't a parent's job to be their children's friend, it is their job to prepare them for the world to come and since that world is an unknown with many uncertain factors, the task is to make sure they can act well no matter the discomfort or fairness of circumstances.

I think I've already told you this before. But yes, what is one more time? :)

In my opinion, our job as parents is no more no less than that one to serve as formidable guide sherpas for our children. Simply showing to our daughters & sons the common routes of life and giving them all the maps that we've been accumulating in our own lives of the paths and mazes through which we have crossed along.

If anything, just pointing out and explaining to them a lil bit a few of the passages, lanes, curves, bystreets, shortcuts, open doors and the closed doors in which we have stopped by and we have entered to nosely snoop inside with the luck of having left the place unharmed of the experience and nothing else.

But above all, make it clear that we'll never interfere with their innate roadmap nor with the decisions that their own intuition tells them how to proceed in their future. They will have to walk alone their own journey to be able to build their own unique and intimate experiences.

Our job is just show them how many hanging bridges we have crossed that they lacked multiple steps in the middle and somehow we managed to cross them and get out alive. What does not mean that if they also decide to cross it everything will go just as well. But, that they are very free to try it if they choose too.

The only difference is gonna be, that regardless of their own future decisions... we need to highlight to them well & clear enough, how stupid it would be find them at the bottom of the ravine with the maps in their pockets unconsulted. :)