Sorry to hear that, @pjcswart, here's an upvote and a resteem which I hope will help. While kids can be really vulnerable at times like this, they can also be extremely resilient. They can see through a whole load of hooey, if you know what I mean. They can also decide who they don't want to be like (ok, that was me as a kid). So if someone is behaving unfairly, they'll pick it up. For what it's worth, please be sensitive to the possibility they may feel guilty for the divorce, even though they're not - many kids blame themselves for mom and dad splitting up (because they didn't clean up their room that day, or were mean to the dog, or whatever). They need to know it's between mom and dad. But you knew that :-)