Thank you for sharing your sadness around receiving and giving gifts. It's not all joy and happiness. I know your feeling and I have found what works for me is that if we can receive the intention behind the material gift, we get the most precious part of the gift, then, even if the gift would break, we have something. Or, sometimes when we see that the intention behind the gift was not so wonderful, we can give the gift back if it feels too weird. Or we can just enjoy the gift anyway and leave the 'shit' or 'confusion' with the person. I do think that many of us are scared to give and receive as it somehow makes us feel vulnerable and thus many of us are clumsy with it. Still wanting to give, not very courageous maybe ,doing a half job with it, being all clumsy but wanting to give non the less.