RE: YOUR RAISING - MY UPBRINGING. What's important after parents split up?
Thank you, erh.germany. Excellent guidelines but they can only be that. Because humans have differing opinions and when they break up, probably different lifestyles again, they have to understand all you recommend. I wish someone would publish a book and hand it to all those newly divorced. No, wait a minute,they could get a link to your website! I firmly belive that a united front is the most important thing they can give their children. If it is agreed in a marriage that the children will be brought up in a certain way, more or less anyway, then it could be easier if a break up happens. In my experience, the children of broken homes who have this; parents who have a united front, are the children with less problems later on. So good to get a proper view on this important subject.
Thank you for reading. Glad, to hear of you again.
I agree with you - I would just use other terms because "united front" sounds and feels for the kids often more like "front" instead of "united" :)) If it is truly united everything is fine. What I see and experience is, there is a desire to want to pull together, but not to be able to have a unified view internally. If it gets faigned - because one of the parents doesn't dare to solve the conflict with the other parent - it all goes into the wrong direction.
I would suggest, that if a certain way cannot be maintained after all, it is needed that differences can be accepted. That is actually a great relief for parents who always have thought of them as this "must be united... , must be united .... " and totally underestimated their kids who are perfectly capable of distinguishing between different parenting styles.
happy to see you too. I agree, differences have to be accepted and children are often given less nous than they warrant. Maybe one day divorce will be a thing of the past. Happy Steeming!
Oh, yes, that would be fantastic. Have you ever heard of a folk in Asia - forgot the name - thy have mother-centered clans. Really fascinating people. There is no divorce because when a couple splits, there is no change whatsoever in circumstances for the whole family. Kids stay at moms house and men & women don't move together but also stay in their mother house. You got me an idea for my next series!! Thank you.
Stay magic!
Well, you know what they say - Mother knows best! You stay magic too!