I do not believe in long-term or perpetual ownership, I am actually trying to get rid of this belief. I'm still in the process. Such faith prevents me from being able to handle events better in given situations. Not to clamor or feed my rising anger when something is lost or stolen, not to develop or maintain hatred towards others because of it when I feel it.

To feel anger or hatred is inevitable. This cannot be avoided, but can only be artfully and spontaneously changed by contemplating and approaching one's own anger or hatred without involving others, always at the moment of its emergence. Also to live with the fact that something is broken, lost or stolen. Since this happens anyway, I don't have to suffer when something gets lost, for example, in a fire. I can then come to terms more calmly with the given event and begin to do and organize what is necessary instead of indulging in undue lamentation.

Getting upset about mistakes or accidents when they have already happened is wasted energy. Whoever gets upset or is over-anxious in a given situation also upsets other people and is often a nuisance to them. Do what needs to be done and put up with the consequences is better than arguing and blaming.

You say you do not own your life because you do not want to be held responsible by God for your actions.

Nowhere did I say that. Do I sound as if I do not want having responsibility? Don't mistake a non-aggressive attitude with weakness or lack of response for my actions or omissions or those of my fellow men. Aggressiveness often arises because of a lack of responding to a given situation. Like for example: people in social gatherings do not notice when it's time for a time out for them. They stay in a situation even though it's really obvious that they have not had a quiet hour during that gathering or day. So they easily get into a fight over minor things. Same with boredom.

If you look at the term "responsibility" it is the ability to respond in an appropriate manner (mind set) to a given situation or happening. Lack of ideas of how to respond leads to problematic or no response at all. Happens all the time.

Please don't understand my expressions as extremes. I am well aware that between "leading a life" and "owning this life" is a fine distinction but still it is a distinction. That does not mean that I wouldn't go see a doctor if I am getting ill and that I wouldn't re/act if I see inappropriate actions in public. But can you admit that even though we can do a lot about health and body care we still cannot make our heart beats stop? There are parts we cannot influence and there is uncertainty which I cannot eliminate to it's fullest. It needs calmness and confidence to act properly in dangerous and uncertain events, no? So I am wondering what you mean by "fight". Do you mean that literally? Or in a metaphorical sense?

I also do not believe in avoiding pain. I know what you mean. I think what you might mean is a disciplined routine, the effort to learn something. This has less to do with pain than with the fact that you have to use a certain mental and physical energy to bring in something to master art. Pain can occasionally occur, but pain alone is of no use. Pain happens. That is correct. But you can't grow with pain if you focus on it, it keeps you from doing what you want to do well. Pain is helpful when you have overcome it and have learned to be patient with it. Pain is a symptom of something that you ignore in the body-mind system. The more one part of you ignores it, the more it appears in another part of you.

However, I don't think that people can't overcome their suffering. I think one can. But it involves a lot of new habits and effort; see above :)

Pain is, for example, when you cut deeply into your finger and have a gaping wound. That is not yet suffering. It becomes suffering when I start to be terribly annoyed or complain about my carelessness, the knife that is too sharp, the person distracting me, and all sorts of things in the aftermath. For example, that I had to wait too long in the emergency room, that the traffic is an imposition, when I have a bleeding finger, that the doctors are idiots and my health insurance is too expensive, etc. Ignoring the fact that I not only maintain my own suffering, but also increase that of others. By being inattentive to everyone who helps me that day, the person who drives the car or bus, the handling of formalities, wound treatment, medication etc. etc.

What you might mean with "sins" I do mean with pacifying myself in thinking, doing and speaking in public or in front of family, friends or strangers. I am always a role model, whether I am aware of it or not. So it's better that I am not that reckless, mindless, egocentric person appearing in public or gatherings as the VIP, but learning to be more quiet and considering. That does not mean that I do not respond. I don't know why people mix pacifism with in-action or weakness. ...

We don't have to agree on everything. It's fine to disagree and still be friendly and feel friendly about one another.