SCHOOL FOR PARENTS: How to help your child choose a profession.
There are happy families where the choice is obvious: the child has some talents and inclinations, he understands who he wants to be, when he is an adult. For example, a seventh grade girl already sees herself as a pediatrician. Great! Or the child is a technology man and wants to become an engineer, like his father. Great!
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And if the child does not have inclinations and desires? Do not pull on one side or on the other.
How to properly stimulate the process of choosing a profession?
The goal is for your child to be a well-established person so that they have a career in demand. It does not have to be specifically a violinist, a doctor or an engineer; Your goal is to guide your child towards what is best for them and create their perspectives on life. He is intelligent and capable, so first pay attention to what is in demand.
There is a common opinion that it is deeply wrong to decide for children. That can cause a psychotrauma and break the contact and a child. Yes, it happens, and you can easily remember such examples. When parents and children are at war with each other, have been fighting for a long time, and then parents want to decide what profession their child should follow, they will deny it outright. And not because parents offer something bad and not suitable for him, but because they are offered by parents who have lost respect on behalf of their children.
But it also happens in a different way. The families are different.
When parents are sensible and loving, when parents and children are one team, there will be no such conflicts. Smart parents have adequate children. At a minimum, these children begin to think together with their parents. In addition, talented parents can advance their choice in such a way that the child considers him truly their own.
Example of what I can say:
1."Son, you have talent, you know we've already found, where will you go?" You will not guess ... You will be a psychologist! To emit? The work is respected, requires knowledge and skill. Paid worthy. "But I do not want to be a psychologist!" "That's right, son, you do not want to!" But while you decide that this will be the best, and when you find the one you like for that moment, we will be absolutely happy that you tell us about your future profession, the same valuable and that you like. Engineer, programmer, economist: choose yourself, we are always ready to discuss this with you. As soon as you introduce us to a profession that will be better, of course, you will go there. So today, as you understand, we decide this: until you know what future profession is close to you, we will prepare you for a psychologist. If you have any other suggestions, we will be happy. But hurry up! If you do not receive an offer in the near future, you will graduate as a psychologist.
2.Dear daughter, I want you to make your right choice. "As you still do not, and I really want to help you, therefore, I have already chosen a good profession, which is the right one for you, which will guarantee your life." Believe me, I really want you to make your own decision, if you find something on time. and you show me that it is reasonable, good and promising, that I support you totally, otherwise, you will have to choose my proposal.
As you understand, the main objective of this strategy is to make your child think and say to himself: "I will go and make my own decision, I will show that my choice is better!".The choice of a profession that will in some way affect the destiny of the child is the responsibility of the parents! Let the process go by itself and wait until your child understands what he wants: the weakest and most unpredictable strategy. In most cases, it does not bring anything good. Encourage the process, make a decision weighted by him. Then he will listen to you and get a decent profession, or he will create his own version and fight for it! In any case, you will get what you want: the certainty of your child and the understanding that you are on the right path.
How to know if it is the right choice?
Here, parents and children will have to understand together, study the pros and cons, analyze the labor market, salary prospects, possible restrictions, etc. How will routine be seen in this profession? How can you see successes and failures? How critical are they? Are there any acquaintances who can tell the truth about this work, what are the pros and cons really? Is it possible to do an internship somewhere to immerse yourself in the profession and draw the conclusion?
There is something to think that the joint discussion of such important issues, such as selecting the profession, will strengthen your friendship with the child. And it helps solve the problem with the choice. In any case, it will give several perspectives and clear options, of which it will only be necessary to choose one.
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In high school students perform a vocational test, which highlights the areas for which each has fitness.
You can also go to a psychology specialist and evaluate it.
Generally, the children already have a clear idea of what they want to study.
The most important thing is to let them take responsibility for what they want.