Can you really still be friends with ex-couples? Can you continue to maintain a good relationship of friendship after love? Is this kind of relationship healthy when between two people love has ended? Do you get to have a friendship or is it just a kind of cordial relationship?

It would be a pity to think that after a beautiful relationship and a big part of a shared path, there could be no link beyond the memories. I refuse to think that it can not be done better, I refuse to think that love is over, the common words and moments together are over too. Surely there is some possibility of establishing a friendship relationship after love.

The key may be to not wear down the relationship so much, not to reach a point where the wound tears to the bone. In not submerging in hatred the affection that has survived, in saying, see you soon in a nicer way, instead of goodbye; in knowing how to move away and recover distance.

It cannot be called friendship anyways, but sometimes they are still people who know us well and there are not many of them. Also many of them are people in which one day we saw something that was worthwhile and that something is still present, so that the bad thing goes when the couple breaks up. In any case, the answer is not the same for all relationships, each one in itself deserves a chapter.

            

Are there still ashes left? Maybe, it will be difficult to see our ex-partner as a strange person, also it will be to see them as friends. When a part of our life has been shared with another person, it will be difficult for the other person to stop meaning something important to us. If they became my partner, it means that something united us. Sometimes, even if the relationship ends, it does not have to cease to be part of the complicity of the past.

That there are still ashes is not a bad thing, we can take advantage of it to know that although today it has changed. There was a day when something united us and we still have the pleasure of being able to meet once in a while and taste a nice, healthy and fun bond with someone who once made us so happy and who is still giving us moments that make us feel good.

If we pretend that sooner than later, a friendship is forged after love, perhaps you're making a mistake. As we said before, the most usual thing is that we need some time to reorganize ourselves before starting to reorganize the relationship. The hurry is a good counselor in a few cases and perhaps the continued contact, when the feelings and pain are still there, can hurt us more.

If one day came to exist the love between two, that means there is a connection, that the two people know each other, that affection made them come together and when two people are healthy, why not continue caring and maintaining a friendly relationship. If the wounds are closed, it can mean the beginning of a new stage, in which friendship after love is possible, as long as you want.

Not wearing away so much love until it hurts can be an important key. When we act badly with the other, there are third parties involved, there is a pain, there is resentment, there is revenge ... this is a barrier to any kind of later friendships, this is a brake on any relationship or bond after ending love.

Why not keeping a beautiful relationship with someone so special who one day I shared my life? Why do I want to cut contact when someone meant so much to me? The answers are yours, heal and then give yourself the opportunity to know new links with the person who shared part of your way. Privacy will be different, complicity will not have to be.

@jonsnow1983

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