I hate my friend in school.
John is my best friend.
Are the above statements common among kids these days?
One of the best part of being in school is that your child gets to make friends in school that enlarges his social network.
Recently I heard from another teacher mentioned that some rich parents enrolled their children in prestige school not really to enable their children to learn better but this is the social network that their children need to find further business successes.
It is quite a sad thing when these children go to school to form network to enable them to find success in their adulthood rather than to see school as a place for learning to enrich their mental capacity.
With good practical Math skills, a businessman may not have a great sense of profit and loss.
Without a good command of language, a poor proposal may not get those future business deal.
Friendship really forms part of the social development in our children so parents should not place their adult expectations for ulterior motives.
Betrayal by friends
One of the hardest times that children find it hard to accept is when their best friend that they have trusted so much betrays them.
The whole world changes and they can be angry and sad.
There can be many good advices but the best thing to do is to forgive.
Forgiving does not mean to share their secrets with the same person again but it is just avoid having an additional enemy.
By having a generous heart of forgiveness, it can also make the person who had betrayed your child acknowledge their mistake since they may feel bad due to your child’s forgiveness.
It is really the same in the adult world where a trusted business partner can betray us for their financial benefit so we need to be wise and be selective about what can be shared and what should be kept secret.
It is a great teachable moment about forgiveness as well as being wise with their personal matters.
It is quite impossible for children not to get into disagreement resulting in arguments.
It is a great opportunity to learn how graciousness works.
It is always wise not to confront the issue immediately when both parties are angry as it only causes more anger as well as argument.
Sometimes, it is wise to leave the matter alone first to find out if there is any misunderstanding. The solution can come later rather than the need to solve immediately through argument.
Forgiveness and graciousness are possible to be infused in such teachable moment.
Getting into fight can be a common issue especially for boys.
With the influence of television shows and movies, it may be a common outcome when they have disagreement or unfairness.
The fact is that it is easier to get into anger and fight.
The hardest thing is to learn how to control and avoid getting into fights.
Children need to be taught that the ones that get into fights are not the cool ones.
The ones who avoid fights are not coward as it takes more mental strength to avoid a fight.
Getting into a fight does not solve a single thing but it is an outcome of two parties trying to overcome one another through violence due to lack of good communication skills and mental maturity.
Children must learn that the ones who stays cool to avoid fight is really the cool ones.
Communication skills with respect
This is really the key solution to many of the other problems stated. With good communication skills, many misunderstandings can be solved.
They can discuss to conclude a solution as well as understand the actual situation.
Good communication does not mean only one person is talking but both parties should take turns to share their thoughts.
During the discussion, it is also a good opportunity to show respect by listening to one another attentively.
Always learn to have an open heart that can resolve all problems easily.
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