IGNORE the NEGATIVE NANCY'S on STEEMIT!

“How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day…You stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others” ― Steve Maraboli

Everybody is entitled to their opinion and when it comes to social media and the “sharing of opinion and perspective” there are two sides to the coin. There is what you share to the community and then there is the response that the community gives you.

When you share opinion or experience by way of your posts – you are reaching and engaging with a lot of people simultaneously. It is highly unlikely that everybody is going to agree with what you have said – including occasions when the information is actually factual.

Nine times out of ten, you will find that the majority of people will respond positively and will give feedback that is related, sensible and in line with what you have put forward… However, there are ALWAYS going to be those that will judge you, comment purely to try and get a negative rise out of you and those that just “don’t get” your message.

If you have made a decision to share something that is of value to you and which you are hoping will hold value to those that read it, then be prepared to stand firm in that approach. If you are going to share your words with thousands of people from all over the globe, then you need to be prepared to act maturely in all instances.

Yes, you are entitled to share what you want and voice your opinion and perspective – and yes, the public are allowed to respond in whichever way they choose and there is absolutely nothing wrong with engaging with the people behind both the positive and negative remarks but the key, is NOT to bet embroiled in whatever negative feedback comes your way.

In other words – do not let it get to you to a degree that you become equally unruly and negative.

It is an absolute waste of your time and energy!

People who approach you with such levels of immaturity, bitterness or plain ugliness are unlikely to be responsive to anything you say– you will more often than not just end up in a ping pong match that leaves you feeling utterly frustrated and depleted!

It can be difficult to just “walk away” from encounters like this, but it is normally the wisest decision to make.

If you believe firmly in what it is that you have shared with the rest of the world, you can be open to the opinion of others, whether you agree with them or not, without feeling the need to repeatedly justify it to them or to get into an endless bun fight.

Now don’t get me wrong – I am not saying that you should be disregarding all response that you don’t agree with 100% or perhaps don’t understand. No, that kind of exchange and/debate is very healthy and you will most likely walk away having learned something. What I AM saying is, you can be receptive to constructive criticism but don’t allow people to bully you with their negativity to a point where you lose faith in what you stand for.

“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Personally, when I am confronted with those that are clearly just out to “get ugly” I will offer them one level headed response and if they respond with further aggression or anything else unwarranted, I simply walk away.

That’s it – Simple!

Here on Steemit, I will simply “mute” them. I do not have time in my life for such negative nancy’s. My energy is far better channelled into something constructive.

“It's okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn't give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don't like what they are saying. Learn to recognize good writing when you read it, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable.” ― Ashly Lorenzana

When the comments are really hurtful – walk away!

When the comments make you angry – walk away!

When the comments are slandering or abusive – walk away!

When the comments are mocking and belittling – walk away!

‘You don’t have to attend every argument to which you are invited’

…Bear this in mind the next time you have to deal with individuals who have nothing positive or constructive to say on your posts.

Steemit is an enormously constructive, productive and motivational space and place. Don't ever let the minority of "naysayers" dull your spirit or diminish your enthusiasm here. Ignore them - smile and wave -carry on sharing your AWESOME content and living your truth!

The passion behind those who are positive, confident and comfortable in their thoughts shared here is enough to drown out the "rest". :)

Until next time...

Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx

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