I understand the frustration and I get why some people choose to give up. I've only had the minor dlegation I got when I first joined which was taken back recently and I run my VP down to 25 sometimes...most of the time!! I could tell a couple stories also but won't but as they say nothing is private on steemit. Being humble and kind was something my mom taught me as well. After she died my friends had this made for me and it hangs above my door as a reminder!! xoxo