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RE: To New Beginnings
Seems amusing. But can cause problems in the family and in society. I don't know how closely you live by tradition and how important relationships with her parents are to you, presumably yours too.
Is there no other way to convince such an intimidating man?
Hahaha of course. I was just kidding, can't even imagine having this approach. I'll get kicked out from the front gate 😂
Now that you asked, I'm very respectful towards her father and would never want to cause any troubles for her in the future. Talking about traditions, here in Pakistan, we have the Islamic culture and in an Islamic culture a boy and a girl shouldn't intermingle before marriage, but we have been given the right to choose our partner to our preferences. We cannot marry without the 'blessings' of our parents, any marriage done without the consent of parents, wouldn't have any significance and similarly on the other hand no parent has the right to force their child to marry anyone that their child doesn't want to
So what do we do? We have a very respectful approach and usually in our culture we have this sense of حیا (respect) which basically means we don't talk about our 'lover' to our parents openly. What happens is, the girl tells her mother that she wants to marry this particular boy. The mother conveys it to the father and when the father agrees to have a talk with the boy and the boy's father, the boy's father gets in touch with the girl's father.
After that the boy's side of the family visits the girl's family and they meet and greet. It's a beautiful system.
Her father is a high profile man. He values and respects hardworking, confident and strong men. Strong not only physically, but financially and emotionally as well. I'm 100% sure he'd want someone who can provide financial and societal security to her daughter. Who's kind with her and loves her. He'd definitely huge demands, I'm sure but hey, I'm not complaining, but trying my very best to be the best version of myself. The first impression would be the key. I'd need to be presentable and confident. Would need s lot of prayers as well:))
Didn't know this comment would get this long 😬😬
It sounds like you still have a long way to go...! All the very best! Happiness will find you.