Ha, funny that we were irritated by the same quote!

The second one, I guess, really depends on who is saying it. If it is the 'victim' then it can be more of an act of defiance (and hopefully, strength instead of bravado?), however if it is told to someone else, it might be at best helpful advice, but possibly an empty rejection of harm.

Words can and do hurt, I also remember things said that have stuck and hurt me. But luckily, don't define me!