The quintessential manifestation key: reprogramming our emotional default response toward physical events
Our most wonderful life experience is not exactly being measured by physical events but by our inner perception of those events.
Relatively often we tend to believe that certain events which are dear to our Heart only allow us to respond to by choosing from a preprogrammed pool of inner emotion. "Death" of a most loved one, for instance, virtually always has the default option 'sadness'. Yet the more aware we become, and the more we shake off energetic density by cleansing inner trauma, the more able will we be to rejig the preprogrammed default option into the individualized emotional response of our choice.
If we wish to shift our individualized emotional response to the "Death" of a most loved one from 'sadness' to 'authentic and loving Happiness and Joy', the only premise placed upon us in order to shift our inner world and perception accordingly is the willingness to authentically release any and all inner energetically dense emotions like sadness, regret or guilt, in short: cutting preprogrammed emotional cords to physical events of any kind.
Only in this way we gradually come to understand that no matter what the physical manifestation of a 'life altering event' will look like, it holds absolutely no indication as to our internal experience of the event.
The more we attempt to take responsibility by focusing on the most wonderful physical manifestation of an event close to our Heart, the more irresponsible and forgetful we will grow about our truest and most quintessential power: the emotional experience!
Consciously releasing dense preprogrammed energies will entail experiences where we notice drastic sudden changes in timelines. These will make us feel as if we have leapfrogged an event that would have happened exactly in this time frame, hadn't we already unrooted and experienced the entire energy of this event and its original effect on us by having exchanged the final long-term conscious physical density event for the preemptive short-term subconscious Quantum event fully aware in the dream state with its energetic echo effect it will then have on us in the waking state until the entire energy has been completely felt and healed. Some weird yet very compelling momentary time leaps are possible during which we physically feel the dissipation of very dense energy, namely the final let go of the lower timeline event.
The physical is the outside, the emotion the inside. So long as we try to manipulate the outside in order to achieve the desired inside, we will follow the principle 'Life dictates, we adapt'. It is once we grasp that we have most fundamental power over our emotional experience that the physical will reflect that back to us. Now there is no doubt left: WE dictate, life adapts.
Any event which is most closely related to our Heart's and Soul's well-being cannot possibly be experienced as being 'beyond our control' as long as we are aware that our most quintessential creative power lies in the ability to choose our emotional Self-expression.
We are larger than life.
Much Love and Light,
Alex
I totally agree that your experience is dictated by you and your reactions to it (both conscious and unconscious responses), and that thinking the world dictates your emotions takes the power away from you and gives it to the world, which causes suffering. However, I think some of your post can be misunderstood as being about controlling emotions. In a way, it is, as it's about learning to properly deal with them and become more resilient and peaceful so they don't control you, but the word "control" could cause some misconceptions, which I'll describe here.
As my mind developed and I tried to get a grasp on it, to resolve some of my traumas and feel at peace, I found myself wondering: are emotions something to be controlled? Are they something that should be conquered and escaped?
In my life, and the lives of many others, we tend to react to our emotions in one of two ways (depending on the feeling and the situation):
i.e., this is the "fight or flight" response - do you run from your feelings or do you fight them? Neither way is helpful and both are harmful to you.
I also tried to control my emotions using logic and reason, which didn't work either. I felt like I was bipolar, with my emotional and logical mind constantly battling each other, one side saying "something doesn't feel right!" and the other arguing "no, that's unreasonable because ... ". I was spinning in circles and never made any progress. I could feel good sometimes, but the negativity would always take over eventually, and both sides of my brain were wasting way too much energy actively trying to quiet the other side, causing a lot of mental fatigue.
It's a vicious self-defeating cycle, like the couple that always argues, and never comes to a peaceful resolution, because when one person gets worked up about something, they react wildly, then their partner reacts to them, and they react to their partner's reaction, and no one ever stops to think and realize how insignificant and minor the original stimulus was that sparked the whole thing. Doing the laundry isn't worth ruining everyone's mood for the day, is it?
Eventually, after that, I learned that the best thing to do when overwhelmed by an emotion is to let it be as it is. Accept its presence. Remember that you didn't choose the feeling on a conscious level, and you can't control it right now, so you can't blame yourself. You can't blame the external stimulus that caused your reaction either, because the way you feel is a result of your own mind on a level you are not yet fully aware of. So once you let go, observe, and let the emotion be as it is without fighting it, you allow the feeling to pass through you and fade away on its own. This is the quickest and least painful way to deal with an emotion, and return to your center of peace. Depending on how good you are at this observing practice, the feeling can still leave an imprint in your mind, an echo in your nervous system - a samskara -, but nowhere near as strong or harmful as it would if you had used one of the fight or flight responses.
Meditation, as well as yoga, making art, writing, or whatever your passion is, are good ways of releasing these samskaras and healing yourself. But don't confuse addictive coping mechanisms with passions. Something that makes you feel good in the short term can be harmful in the long term, and that's not a healthy practice. In my opinion and experience, meditation is probably the best way. With a consistent and dedicated meditation practice, everything else falls into place naturally.
Over time, this practice of being aware but not reactive makes you more and more resilient. You still have emotions, because they are meant to be a part of us, but you aren't controlled by them, they are not out of control, and you feel better. The negative feelings aren't as overwhelming and don't last as long. Situations no longer bother you as much. Stress gradually fades away. But this process takes time and some determination, so it's important to not feel hopeless and give up in the early stages.
There might have been something else I wanted to say, but I don't remember, and this comment is already longer than your post (I'm too verbose but I want to be as clear as possible). My point is that while our emotions should not be at the mercy of our external experience, neither can we simply decide what our emotional response will be in the moment. The brain will continue using the patterns it has always used, and it takes time and mindfulness to release those patterns and reset. Trying to "control" emotions is just as harmful as other ways of coping.
How could I disagree? Your words are music to my ears.
Yet bear in mind that the potential pitfalls you so perfectly described will inevitably take hold the moment an unauthentic person will attempt to copy and fake the authentic person's behavior. Having said that, authenticity will always be misunderstood by the unauthentic. So should I worry about readers drawing "wrong" conclusions from my article? No, because for the unathentic every single word I wrote will cause nothing but misunderstandings anyway, theoretically as well as practically, while those who do understand my article, like you, will have the proper discernment, theoretically as well as practically :)
Maybe. I don't know. Like I said, it took me a while to figure out how to deal with my feelings. If I had read a post like this at that time, I might have misunderstood the use of the word "control". I understand what you mean now, because I've already had the experience myself. But for someone who hasn't, they still don't know what to think yet.
Excellent post proving that the micro and macro cosmos have the same rules, but its the microcosmos aware of these rules, that move the macrocosmic.
Every re-evolution only comes from the inside, nothing comes from outside.
Dalai Lama said that the world has happy people that believe that everything comes from inside, but there is half of the world thinking that things come from the outside, spoiling the joy of the former. :)
Yes. Having the inner shifts is what makes us closely examine our behavioral pattens we have been cultivating for too long. Sometimes it needs certain pieces of information to truly let go of some habits, and that is actually when we send out clear signals what we will accept and what not as part of our reality experience. The Universe is very willing to play with us if we play with it, yet it is every one of us who needs to claim their sovereignty. ;)
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