How highly do you value the opinion of those who promote style as substance? Such 'standards' have little merit in my experience.

I, for one, have never fit in, and long ago accepted that attempts to do so give credence and power to shallow and long established forms of ignorant perspectives on existence. F! conformity as a purpose for existence. Beyond a modicum of protocol and consideration for others sensitivities it just becomes a hang up that constricts more valuable pursuits.