How to trick your mind - Chapter 3
The eyes of others our prisons - their thoughts our cages
It is very human want to be liked. Isolation can be dangerous for our mental health… But if you betray yourself to get others to like you, that causes problems which are at least bad if not worse. I will talk about that later …
We have the need to be liked but deep inside of us exist the need to be authentic too - to think, feel and live in our unique way! Nature made us think critically and develop creative solutions. If we all thought alike, the human race would have died many centuries ago. We react different with other people around us but act independently at the same time. Now I want to talk about the problems I mentioned earlier. If you aren´t doing both, you´re out of balance which means your psyche will complain about it with depression.
No one likes me - I have to get them to like me
What others may think about me
Who doesn’t know these thoughts?
“Who cares about what others think about you?“ - everyone heard this sentence but it its easier said than done! Everyone wants to be loved and we are scared of rejection. But why do we feel that way?
Please take a look back to your childhood. We ran outside in the nature without any clothes, screamed like lions and acted like monkeys. We didn't care about anything. Why did this change?
When we grow up, we got stock into a golden cage called “school“. They taught us what we need to know and showed us how to act in different situations. It was easy to create tiny robots which constantly react if they will push the right buttons.
Exaggerated I would say - We got switched equally
There is fear inside of us which prevent us from being her/himself. And the fear is growing ! Instead of living our life how we want it to be, we follow the paths of the people around us. We are stressed out and we try to meet their expectations just to make them happy. We are busy to follow social ideals ( great job, not taking any risks etc ), that we forget WHO we are and WHAT we stand for.
Before I start I want you to know that it is a great quality to have interests in others opinion. If you are open minded and accept others opinions that only means you´re ready to learn. You are able to accept their feedback to make progress.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life - Steve Jobs
It’s not their Life, so it’s none of their business! Here are some steps to deal with the problem…
1. FIND YOUR PEOPLE
I can tell you many stories of being surrounded by the right people. @sirwinchester wrote an great article about the influence of our friends. Seek out the people who see your strengths, goodness and whom you trust!
2. SPEND TIME ALONE
In order to remember who you really are and what you want, you´ll need a period of time to hear yourself and your wishes.
3. FACE IT DOWN
What if other people think badly about you? Thank goodness! If everyone would like you, you´re probably not human anymore. Ask yourself “Whats the worst that could happen?“ and come to terms with it.
4. DECIDE WHATS TRULY IMPORTANT TO YOU
Make a short list and pin it onto your fridge. Make reminders on your phone and don’t let critical folks who are suffering from insecurity come between you and fulfillment.
5. FIND YOUR INSPIRATION
Name 3 characters - real, fiction or even from literature. ( For example Martin Luther King, Eleanor Roosevelt, Misty Copeland, Katniss Everdeen or Harry Potter) that have faced these same fears and overcome them!
6. ACCEPT YOURSELF
First you need to accept who you are! What do YOU hate about yourself? I want you to think about 5 flaws which you dislike on you the most. Write them all down. Now think about 3 different ways for every flaw to solve your problems and it´s going to be easier accepting who you are! Trust me…
7. WHATS RIGHT FOR OTHERS DOESN´T MEAN IT´S RIGHT FOR YOU
Keep in my that others opinion is often based on what THEY would do. This is dangerous. Maybe what is right for someone else can be the worst thing for you. Everyone of us is unique and the person who knows what is right is just yourself!
How to trick your mind? We are trained to think about what others like about us and what they maybe dislike. Now it is up to you to change that! Everyone of us is unique and special. Change your mindset , find the right people around you, accept yourself and the darkest thoughts may come to an end.
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Tip by Soldier-
Travel. Usually it is tough to start a new lifestyle in your old surroundings. It doesn't have to be a different continent. Visit another city or take a break on an island. Stay away from negativity and your stressed daily routine. After that, your new lifestyle is much easier to implement in your daily routine than before!
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Stay focused
Love, soldier
Thank you very much for your thoughts and for the awesome layout. I can feel the love you put within. It deserves many SP!
Thank you for your lovely words!
Well put. Diggin' this post @soldier - Keep em comin'
Thx
Great post, very powerful! I love your images and the "be yourself, weird alien, that you truly are" :D
hahaha I believe we both are some kind of “aliens“ :D <3 thank you for your feedback
Nice post and welcome back!
Thank you a lot :)
Nice to see you posting again :).
yeah, I am glad to be back
Had to revisit your page and see what I have missed now that I've had time. You have written some very profound words, and I take to heart the positive words of encouragement and direction you share with us all to help ourselves out of low, insecure places. It's also true that everyone leads their own lives and we must respect one another to make our own decisions without trying to force anything upon each other if the person has no interest at all.
I too, would love to travel indeed, as that is a big part of self development and making big discoveries.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom once again, and glad I got to share our birthday together with the family and friends. Happy New Year, Happy Birthday, and Upvoted
If you get a chance please check out my post I did, and if you could be so kind, please resteem it :) I greatly appreciate all your support, thanks again in advance